Amnesia is by miles the scariest game I've ever played, and the biggest thing is actually the sound of 'your own' breathing as you slowly go Lovecraft-style crazy wandering around in the dark. I had to stop playing it 'headphones on lights off' because it was freaking me out too badly.
A former friend used to start a “discussion/debate/argument” with me, get me good and wound up and then say “I don’t know why you’re so upset, I was only playing Devil’s advocate.”
I’m all for a nice game of Devil’s advocate as long as it’s advertised as such beforehand.
Yeah, I hate this. For a start, if you don't in some way call Devil's Advocate before you start, what you're actually doing is arguing in bad faith. Devil's Advocate is supposed to be a way of testing an argument for flaws, not deliberately pissing someone off.
But also, "Oh, I didn't really mean that, I was just playing Devil's Advocate," is a not-uncommon way of weaselling out of having just lost an argument.
Best Whaleoil thread EVER! ;-)
I am delighted that he's chosen to embrace feminism, and that he and his commentariat will be actively policing men pushing women into doing things they don't want to do from now on.
I’m sorry to “trigger” your pain about her untimely death.
So... you're doubling down on really painfully obviously not knowing what the fuck you're talking about? Good to know.
You’re just there to organise the strike action.
Heh. You know how we keep banging on about 'negotiation'...
Ahhh, have you paid your subs?
Seriously Not My Job.
The BDSM dungeon will be used for a late-night crochet circle.
I did NOT see that in the minutes...
To me the ‘affair’ isnt the issue (although it will be to many – particularly women, who, incidentally, seem somewhat invisible on this site) – its how and where it was conducted.
That's pretty fucking sexist.
Sorry we haven't been more visible: we were all off at the Women's Meeting deciding what women collectively think. Women are not invisible on this site. See Hebe? She's a woman. It's true there are usually more women participating here than have in this particular thread: perhaps an indication that we care LESS about the affair, not more?
Yes, sexist racist troll is sexist and racist. Quelle surprise, etc.
I think this is something a lot of people forget. It will take a long time… and leaving an such a relationship is just the start.
It's also the most dangerous bit. Abusive partners who are left often don't just go, "Well okay then. Guess that's over."
But if you really want to give an alternative view you could say
‘I don’t have any personal experience of your situation, but if I was I would imagine that I would do/feel/think …’
But I really wish you wouldn't, unless your friend has actually asked for advice. If they haven't, why are you telling them what you think you would do? (Because it may not be what you would actually do.)
Those friends who couldn’t, I had to forgive because lord knows I’m crap at it so why should they be good at it, but I did need to spend less time with them.
This, so much. The friends who have managed to support me - and even more, those who've managed to be supportive of both me and my partner - are extraordinary. Those who've stumbled are just human. I don't blame them at all. But I also sometimes can't deal with them.