Posts by wendyf

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  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies,

    Thanks, Deborah and Craig. Adjusting my head.

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  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies,

    And Key just talked about "young women putting themselves in this situation". I feel sick.

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  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies,

    By coincidence , last night I watched an old episode of Taggart in which a well-known novelist is killed and his prostitute 'companion' is all-but, and later, killed. The investigation centred about a drop-in place for the women and the difficulties encountered by the police in getting co-operation. The episode made it very clear why there was the lack of co-operation. No punches pulled in showing the police attitude.

    It was a grim companion piece to the NZ TV story.

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  • Hard News: Moving on,

    Mourning quietly. But, as the photo display downtown says - "Thx 4 the memories."

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  • Speaker: You ain't from round here,

    Thanks Greg. Very enlightening, and at least I feel I'll make some kind of informed choice.

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  • Speaker: The Mirror of Our Selves,

    That looks like a marvellous book. Do you remember post-war "The Children's Health Is The Nation's Wealth"? Time for a reminder.

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  • Up Front: Professional Counsel,

    Jackie - this is a hard time, for both of you. Afterwards is hard too, but you will get there. For now, if you can be with your friend as much as you are able, and talk about the good times, and laugh about the funny times and cry about the bad times, that will help. Some.

    Arohanui to you, and to Alistair.

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  • Up Front: Good Counsel, in reply to Isabel Hitchings,

    The I'm - not - worthies. You've nailed it Isobel. Exactly.

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  • Up Front: Good Counsel,

    Thanks to Judith - thanks to all of you. I'm finding it hard to write anything at all here - memories are tossing around in my head, and in my gut. Pills yes. I'm having Citalopram which is working well for me, and I'll stay with it. But what has made the biggest difference is counselling, and I'm so grateful, so very very grateful that my GP insisted that I take advantage of the free counselling available here.

    Many years ago I talked to someone about feeling 'low' and he said it was because I was a newly-engaged (to a man) lesbian. I said I didn't think so but agreed to think about it. The next week I told him I was pretty sure I wasn't and he gave me the "See! You deny it! That proves it." line. 40 years of mostly joyous marriage makes me think I was probably right.

    Next time I was 'low' my GP gave me Librium or some such. Which came in handy swallowed with sherry when I decided that my family would be sooo much better off without me. My husband came home early and wasn't convinced when I assured him everything would be just fine, soon.

    Psych ward at hospital for 2 weeks, with shock treatment, no talk therapy but instructions to tell my GP if I felt 'low' again. So I didn't wait too long before I saw my GP again and he gave me...a bottle of Librium or some such.

    When earthquake counselling was suggested last year I was not keen, but it was brilliant. Thanks to Pegasus. And then this year when I found it hard not to be able to tell my adult kids how I was feeling - I felt angry that I couldn't tell them (self-centred cow!) I told my GP that I was again in that dark place. Again, thanks to Pegasus, more counselling and a much more realistic view of who I am and who I am not.

    If Citalopram is just a sugar pill, then for me it works. But it's the counselling that allows it to work. For me

    Thanks again all you people.

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  • Hard News: Community standards,

    Thanks Steve.

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