Posts by Danielle

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  • Up Front: Lighting the Dark, in reply to Carol Stewart,

    I think perhaps I would find them less awful if they weren't so SUFFOCATING. I run out of tactful/funny ways to say "I think that's a quality shared by lots of children, not just boys or girls", because who wants to be the party pooper while everyone commiserates humourously about their child's supposedly inherent gendered qualities? And it's not like I'm a model gender-neutral parent anyway. It's really hard.

    Charo World. Cuchi-cuchi!… • Since Nov 2006 • 3628 posts Report Reply

  • Up Front: Lighting the Dark,

    I dunno, Steven. There are a lot of perfectly intelligent people who make Every Single Relationship Thing about "men are like this, women are like that". All men. All women. All boys. All girls. We must "other" that gender, or chaos will ensue! It starts at fucking postnatal coffee groups and it never ends. (I'm totally not bitter about it at all, you understand.)

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  • Speaker: Let's talk about class, in reply to Barnard,

    the idea no matter how enlightened men will always be part of the ‘patriarchy’, white people will always be part of a ‘white supremacy’

    So, basically what you're arguing here is that "identity politics" (for want of a better term) on the left is unable to distinguish between structural inequalities ("the patriarchy", "white supremacy") and the specific personal qualities of men or white people? If that's so, why is so much social justice theory based on challenging hegemonic ideas and structures, rather than accosting white dudes on the street and yelling "hey, you suck!"?

    In other words, I'm a bit dubious about that.

    Charo World. Cuchi-cuchi!… • Since Nov 2006 • 3628 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Weirder yet, in reply to Sacha,

    I reckon it could fit pretty well on a Sufjan Stevens album though.

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  • Hard News: Weirder yet, in reply to Myles Thomas,

    I think entering into a dick-waving contest over who has lived The Most Edgy Life Among People Who Say Racist Stuff would possibly be the dumbest move ever on my part, so I'm not going to do it: I reject the framing of the argument. It's ludicrous. I'm just going to say this: my husband is from Texas and my father is from DEEP BACKWOODS Louisiana. It's very silly to assume everyone who rejects this sort of behaviour has no experience of it.

    Given those facts about me, I'd also like to note that it is often very simple not to join in. So yeah, I also reject that as an excuse.

    I get that he's not very mature, and he's keen on being accepted by the cool kids, and all that jazz. I really do. I just don't think all this falling over ourselves to give him a pass is doing him - or us - any favours.

    Charo World. Cuchi-cuchi!… • Since Nov 2006 • 3628 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Weirder yet,

    Oh for fuck's sake. Of *course* I think context makes a difference. "Context" is why I consider Dotcom a thoughtless douchebag exhibiting racist behaviour instead of a white supremacist. But I think the pass line for someone taking part in New Zealand's political life probably shouldn't be set as low as "is not an actual Nazi, just has fun with the imagery".

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  • Hard News: Weirder yet, in reply to Russell Brown,

    It's not a question of how I would have written it; it's a question of not giving Dotcom an implicit pass because his racist behaviour isn't as bad as some people on Twitter imagined it to be. It's still pretty damn bad. Like collecting an autographed Mein Kampf is pretty damn bad.

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  • Hard News: Weirder yet,

    I guess, since apparently no one else is going to say it, and I said it on Twitter last night, that I’m gonna have to express my discomfort with this paragraph:

    Whatever happened with trash talking and “racist day” it does seem clear that the game came from the African American members of the recording party. With hindsight, it also seems clear that Dotcom should have refused to play

    It’s usually pretty easy to work out that as a white dude you should not play a game that involves racial slurs with members of a marginalised group. It doesn’t need to be with hindsight. If you’re a thoughtful human being you can probably work it out ahead of time. It also doesn’t matter who started the game. I think this “they started it so it’s not so bad that he joined in” approach to the issue is… a bit weird in itself, actually.

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  • Hard News: Weirder yet, in reply to Ken Double,

    You know what's upsetting? That there is no "Jonah Ryan's scene entrances" YouTube supercut I can post here in response to you, Ken. You disappoint me, internet.

    Charo World. Cuchi-cuchi!… • Since Nov 2006 • 3628 posts Report Reply

  • Speaker: Why we can’t just fix secondary…, in reply to izogi,

    I’ve heard that the USA makes its citizens file annual returns no matter where they are in the world… just to make sure they’re paying enough tax to somebody.

    They do. WHICH IS INSANE. So my husband does a tax return for both countries, but only pays tax here. Pointless busywork.

    (I have dual citizenship and have never bothered doing my US tax returns, because as far as I'm concerned only my New Zealandness counts when it comes to taxes. Perhaps this will bite me on the bum one day.)

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