Does he want coffee or “coffee”?
Ah yes, the all important difference between going back to someones place for coffee (“coffee”) and going back to someones place for a hot beverage. Very important to know which one they mean when the invitation is made. #thereisthiskaosstoryphiltells....
Ah, this could indicate something quite different. Some women, myself included, have a "friend zone". Once you've been put in the Friend Zone, thinking of you in a romantic/sexual context requires a jarring mind-shift. Just getting your head around the idea, no matter how you feel about the individual, is discomforting
Oh yes I'm very familiar with the concept of the Friend Zone :-/ Like the nice guys/jerks theory it has its proponents and its detractors.
I also have a friend zone of sorts - generally a woman has to be in it before I start being interested in her as -more- than a friend*/"equally human". You can see how the two are at cross purposes...
*beyond instinctual biological stuff ... and that's a tangent into whether wanting to sleep with someone is "more than a friend" territory, which seem to be the socially dominant assumption. I think it's on a different axis myself.
I do often wonder that treating all women as being equally human, as I try to do, sends them the wrong signals. Many times I've ended up deeply involved in a conversation with a woman I don't have any physical attraction to, and then tuned in my social radar and thought "Oh fuck, she's hitting on me. Now what?". I end up looking like an arsehole anyway, when I then have to pull off an escape move.
Or the opposite case which is more my experience - apparently negating any signals that I might be interested, leading to complete surprise (followed by discomfort) on their part when I eventually broach the matter. And by eventually I mean after having gotten to know someone over a period of weeks or months, not the course of an evening.
Party vote Greens. Here in Wigram the electorate vote doesn't mean much, but that's ended up gong to the Green candidate as well. Keep MMP with STV as an alternative.
For the detailed reasoning behind my votes - here's one I prepared earlier
It occurs to me that at some point inviting everyone to delve into their parents’ photo albums and scan and post some here would be fun and rewarding.
One project I started this year is in fact scanning my late grandparent's photo albums before they get distributed far and wide throughout the family. It's a bit of a start-stop process, when the urge strikes. But I will be publishing the albums to the web for extended family, I might post a few photos here.
Tangent, since this seems to be the current earthquake/christchurch thread - I had the opportunity to look around inside one of our earthquake-threatened historic places this past weekend and thought people here might be interested in the photos (and the possibility of another group visit at a later date)
There have been "party vote national" signs scattered around my part of "Wigram" for some weeks now. Just the (young) local candidate on them, no sign of JK.
I would have liked to see the Greens run a strong candidate and campaign here, with the void left by Anderton there might have been a chance to catch people thinking about their vote. Instead I expect most of those votes just to slip straight over to Labour (especially since Jim sent around a nice letter endorsing their candidate as his successor).
Doesn't go any way to making me feel like my (electorate) vote counts any more in this election than it has in the past 6.
Just get the words Flash Flash in place of the video when browsing on Chrome on Mac here.
Ditto Firefox 6, Windows 7 Pro 64bit. Link to NZOA and video there works fine though :)
this picture is seriously doing my head in.
I don't see the full gallery linked here yet – Facespy