Or at least, ‘holding hands’ in our culture seems a bit fucked up.
I do find it such a pity that our culture has developed taboos around touch. We are tremendously affected by touch, much more than we think. So I find it sad that the act of touching, carressing, hugging have such restrictive boundaries.
The idea that every touch is interpreted as a sexual overture is just wierd. It must be even more confusing for those who are attracted to both sexes.
having the piss taken without mercy
In the nicest possible way of course :).
PAS is the only forum where I feel like I need to think my opinion through before I post
But PAS is also a place where you are allowed to have your opinion changed and admit it. It's OK to be wrong here. That really is an important thing.
My own social conditioning was rammed home really forcefully in the middle east when I saw men walking holding hands - because that is just normal there.
Why did I react at a gut level as if it wasn't?
Is it an improvement that Katy Perry has given permission for (straight?) chicks to snog each other at parties?
I’ve been thinking about this overnight, and I have mixed thinkings. Yes, it’s more acceptable than it was for two women to kiss, and certainly more acceptable than for two men. But for me it contributes to that feeling that that side of my sexuality is faked, performative, done mostly for the benefit of others. It reinforces the idea that bi women are just straight attention-seekers.
But isn’t this just a part of the problem. If two girls straight or gay or bi enjoy holding hands is that OK? If I enjoy the sight of them enjoying holding hands is that OK? Now where is the line that defines the difference between holding hands and snogging? Is there a line?
A huge part of this is the social conditioning we have that we are unaware of. Snogging is part of sex, holding hands is not, but why?
blogging for so much longer than blogs have existed
If politicians insist blogging has only existed for 4 years, to advance an unproven theory to the contrary is to blaspheme against the word of the politician.
Actually, I give up.
I think going for a ride is probably worthwhile at this point.
is a fundamentalist religion and what the prophet said is fundamentally correct to every Muslim – otherwise you aren’t a Muslim.
I personally know muslims who would laugh hysterically at this argument.
You are failing to realise that the vast majority of people who are muslim are just ordinary people who live ordinary happy lives and would be, and are, horrified by the actions of the extremists.
That's really beautiful Nora
I know nothing
Said in the voice of Sargent Schultz