Posts by Richard Aston
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Yeah ... nah
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There is hole in the fabric of things where Mandala once was.
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Hard News: Heads Up, in reply to Russell Brown,
You know how pot seemed a bit gentler and lighter back in the day, and how modern hydro pot sometimes makes your heart race? That appears to be the relative absence of CBD.
What of organic pot ? Someone needs to do some research here .
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Russell does getting less sleep affect you at all during the day?
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Dismal Soyanz,
This in turn implies the social norms need adjusting.
You make it sound so easy Dismal , social norms or cultural narratives sometimes take generations to " adjust"
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to ,
And it only takes threes dogs to constitute a pack.
Yeah and there is something in that dynamic , the late great poet Alden Nowlan had a good term to explain why people would not do things individually they would a pack
"the guilt can't be divided into small forgettable pieces" -
Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Sacha,
Diane Revoluta discusses how we “look for how we can punish the individual rather than address the wider culture”.
Thanks for this link Sacha , its a good balance in the blame game currently emerging.
However, it’s more than just the fact dehumanising rapists perpetuates myths about rape. It creates the illusion that this person who committed the rape is an intrinsically bad person: the blame is squarely on their shoulders, “how could anyone do this?”, “what an evil, evil person”. It shifts the blame from the victim, which is how traditionally rape has been understood, to the offender, rather than looking at the wider issues that create a culture of misogyny, a society that doesn’t respect women, and a generation of young people who don’t understand what consent looks like.
We find someone to blame , we punish them , all sorted ... not.
In a way I am grateful to Tamihere and Jackson for showing us how pervasive the culture of misogyny truly is. They are not alone and do represent one male view of woman.How to change male misogyny culture without more blaming and shaming is what is challenging me to act. My work is broadly in this area and male friends and I are talking about what we can do ; education programmes in schools for example but I sense it needs to go wider than that.
How to encourage respect and caring for women and also acknowledge the beautiful wildness of sexuality. How to find this balance and a pathway into the male psyche to awaken that deep respect.A work in progress...
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Russell Brown,
And in you not could make this shit up news, the police have threatened Martyn Bradbury with six months’ imprisonment if he did not take down an image parodying police inaction.
Gang-rape 13 year-olds? A little chat. Mock the police? You’re going to jail.
What the hell is wrong with these guys? Very pithy comparison Russell .
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Greg Dawson,
I apologise if I came across as trivialising this or being flippant, that was not my intent.
Its cool Greg no apology needed. I didn't mean to take away from the very important issues of how we deal with rapists right now, nor how the police are (mis)handling it. I agree we are trying to hold several lines of thought here. And we all get triggered in our own ways.
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Greg Dawson,
But the actual rapists are still rapists. Just sayin’.
Yeah but rape is not a natural part of the human psyche, rapists are not just born like that, they created by our culture. And yes we can lock them up for while to protect our women but they will keep arriving as another young boy looking for power over to prop up his sense of self.
I am not saying forget about the rapists, yes we need to deal with that - and strongly - but I am saying lets at least explore the causes.
Just saying.