Posts by Craig Ranapia
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Hilary Stace,
If this happens to these women what hope is there for the rest of us to have our voices heard?
I'd be a little more sympathetic if they weren't quite so keen to dish out the same treatment to trans-women and sex-workers. Who, with all due respect, are a damn sight more marginalized and hand-waved out of discourse than they'll ever be.
Did you see the Germaine Greer glitterbombing? I have very mixed feelings about that.
So do I - I'd rather Greer got a little less adoration and glitter and a lot more close "WTF, really?" editing of her increasingly cranky and incoherent screeds. Has any of the media coverage of Greer's visit here even raised her long history of outing and belittling trans-women?
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Deborah,
No, no! You misread me.
Sorry, angst/insecurity projection there. What a pretty slip, Doctor Freud, can I get it in peach? :)
On the second hand, we have a persistent commenter at The Lady Garden who frequently turns up to make picky points or ask leading questions
Oh, I call it the Bill Clinton derail ("I think we really need to debate what the meaning of "is" is 'cause I wanna") - and isn't it darling? Then when some poor shnook comes along who's looking for a clarification in perfect good faith, they get it in the neck from people who are on their last nerve.
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Emma Hart,
Also, as Craig has demonstrated above, people don't hear clichés.
Ouch, but justified. :)
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Russell Brown,
I see the principle being invoked competitively, or to invalidate someone else's perspective.
Which in itself is a form of privilege (and plain old-fashioned bullying), that needs to be owned and avoided. :)
I know full well I can get patronising/lecturing/domineering, especially when I think I have something important to say.
Support group - bring it in for a hug! :) A train of thought you're totally passionate about is a wonderful thing when you're driving it; when you're tied to the tracks and it's about to turn you into a family pack of mincemeat? Nah...
Having folks around who can tell you to pull your head in is helpful.
People who'll laugh at you when you're being more than usually silly are a mitzvah too.
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Megan Wegan,
"Bitch, please..." works for me, but there are some contexts were it's *cough* unhelpful.
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Megan Wegan,
* And "own your privilege" is, of course, exactly the kind of language you're talking about.
Russell and I have had a *cough* free and frank exchange of views on that turn of phrase. I'm in the process of replacing it with "Shut the fuck up, and genuinely listen rather than waiting for your turn to speak. You really really need to internalize some complicated stuff. I know it's outside your comfort zone, but deal. Then choose your next words with care and empathy."
Could I crowdsource a snappy acronym for all that? :)
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Megan Wegan,
Having said that, the kind of sites where men can't speak are usually the same sites where I don't speak either.
Yeah, but to be fair I'd probably be on a hair-trigger after yet another round of men driving by a feminist blog to tell the feeble little lady-brains to change their tampons, stop being so "hysterical" and focus on some "real issues" - which oddly enough, never seem to include women's health, reproductive rights, domestic and sexual violence or icky stuff about lesbians or trans-women.
And don't even get me started on man-trolls who decide already fraught threads where women are talking about their experience of rape or sexual abuse, is the place to opine on how you wouldn't leave your car unlocked in a bad neighborhood therefore...
I agree with you that it's unfortunate when feminist blogs exclude men, but I can understand why some feel it's better than being on a never ending troll patrol. Especially when it reaches the level of persistent threats of rape or assault landing in your inbox.
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Up Front: Safety Net, in reply to Russell Brown,
People tell me they're anxious about looking stupid, or at least insufficiently clever.
Which I don't understand, because everyone except the most wretched excrement-craniums is more than sufficiently clever about a whole bunch of somethings I'm blissfully ignorant about. Yes, PAS can get a wee bit angst-ridden on occasion, but more often it's a neverending zombie buffet of tasty brains.
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Muse: Freakanomics (TVNZ Edition), in reply to nzlemming,
I thought Jane Wrightson sounded completely arrogant and out of touch.
To be fair, I'm not sure how useful it is to blame the monkey when it's the organ grinder giving you the headache.
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Mediawatch covered this today here. Would have appreciated a hat-tip, but my ego will survive. :)
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