Posts by Deborah
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Legal Beagle: Think it possible that you…, in reply to Graeme Edgeler,
No obligation on anyone. I’m just asking.
That's just a bit disingenuous. The way you're asking the questions makes it fairly clear that there's an answer that you think all reasonable people ought to give.
But it's a little close to being a devil's advocate - just asking the questions, just asking for explanations, just engaging in an interesting theoretical exercise, and the girls who were raped, and the on-going enabling of rape culture and misogyny are just interesting data points.
With respect, this is the stuff of our lives. It's not just an abstract exercise in thinking about political rights.
It would be great if you could engage with the actual harm done by rape culture enablers like JT and Willie Jackson instead of insisting that it's all about free speech.
Also, what Marama Davidson said.
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Legal Beagle: Think it possible that you…, in reply to Graeme Edgeler,
I guess maybe I suggesting that the better option is to take your turn at the same time as others, rather than silencing others so you can speak?
JT and Willie have not been silenced. They just don’t have access to the same platform as they had before.
Taking your turn… ie. women have to take their turn amongst all the men to get their views heard. Here’s the problem with that: it assumes a world in which gender has no particular influence, and that women do get a turn to speak as a matter of course. But in the real world, many, many more men have access to platforms of influence. As a woman, it’s hard to get access to a platform, and hard to be heard.
In this highly gendered issue, your analysis lacks a consideration of the impact of gender.
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I'm tired of living in a society where blokishness and treating women as lesser beings and as existing only for the purpose of providing sex for men is not only tolerated, but encouraged. As it is when people like JT and Willie are not just allowed, but are *paid* to be loutish, misogynist blokes. And it's not as though this was an isolated incident: JT has form when it comes to misogyny.
I'm hearing overtones of a fancied up version of "women, get to the back of the bus and wait your turn" in this analysis.
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Up Front: To the Letter, in reply to Geoff Lealand,
I would like to read that, Geoff. Is it available anywhere? And I'd like to read more about the whole thing.
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I think I covered my tracks pretty well and had lulled him into a false sense of security by planting things in the garden right up to the time we left.
A whole story in just one short sentence.
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Years ago, we had a family gathering at my parents’ place. In the morning, when we were all getting up and making coffee and greeting each person as they arrived in the kitchen, my husband asked my then five year old nephew, “How did you sleep?”
My nephew looked at my husband, baffled by the weird adult question, and said, “I just did.”
If only…
I find that reading myself to sleep, and then reading again if I wake up in the middle of the night helps. Fortunately, I have bouts of insomnia about as frequently on alcohol-free days as I do on evenings when I’ve had a glass or two of wine, so I haven’t had to give up drinking yet. Sometimes, if I wake stark staring up, mind racing and muscles tense, I get up and do some work for an hour or two. A few years back it turned out to be a remarkably effective way of getting our tax returns done.
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Thanks for the shout out, Stephen.
For the record, I'm sticking my hand up to be a candidate for Labour at the next election. I'll look for a list position, and I'm also running for selection in Rangitikei, because there's plenty of party vote to be had there.
Would anyone like to suggest that because I'm a woman, I'm incompetent? No? Thought not. But if you think that somehow quotas mean that incompetent women will be promoted ahead of competent men, then you will need to say, to my face,(or on-line will do), that I'm incompetent.
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Thank you for telling us about your experience, Lisa_J. And for your determination in telling your story, in court and here.
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Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Hebe,
And John Key just talked about "young women putting themselves in this situation".
John Key was referring to young women going through the process of pressing charges, and through the court system. It is of course, an indictment of our court system, that people who have been raped don't feel that they can face the horrid process. However, to be very clear, John Key was not victim blaming, at all.
Not that I'm a fan of John Key, at all. But in this circumstance, what he said was okay.
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Speaker: About Radio NZ's new…, in reply to Stephen Judd,
Learn a new word every day...
autochthon
n. pl. au·toch·thons or au·toch·tho·nes (-th-nz)
1. One of the earliest known inhabitants of a place; an aborigine.
2. Ecology An indigenous plant or animal.