Posts by Emma Hart
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Chris, I guess my underlying problem was with the assertion that you can 'support someone's rights' without supporting their right to marry.
But I agree with you that there is no point in targeting the minority at the other end of the spectrum, and instead focusing on the soft squishy middle. I'd love a big hunk of decent sound not carried out by the Maxim Institute research to tell us how people feel now - how many people were opposed to Civil Unions at the time, and have now pretty much forgotten they happened.
Yeah, I'd rather have a conversation focused on what we want marriage to be, rather than what it 'traditionally' is. That erosion Gio was talking about is happening anyway without any law changes because more and more people simply aren't getting married.
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Heh, I can take a minute to say, I LOVE Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel books (her other fantasy, not so much). For someone who didn't know anything at all about BDSM they might promote a few misunderstandings, but she represents the emotional and physiological experience very well.
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Emma, this makes my apology even more abject, if this is the sort of thing that is regularly trotted out (and believed!).
It's the polite end. It's usually followed by being patronised and then ignored when you have the guts to stand up and say 'actually, I was never smacked as a child, not once, and that still wouldn't explain the thing with the ropes'.
A feminist academic who blogs a lot about BDSM (her id is ninedeuce, I'm not linking to her) actually said that if people really genuinely DID have BDSM desires that were natural to them, they should commit suicide.
I think part of the problem is that a lot of nice, genuine people think they know what BDSM is, and don't. I guess I should attempt to fix that.
I do, however, at least have The Renegade on my side:
Sure, I’ve seen it before, I am sure I will see it again, but it is really, really standing out this time. That thing? The outcry- sometimes made with reason, sometimes with an attempt to appeal to empathy, sometimes made with resounding rage- on the part of BDSM participants to be seen as…
Human.
Not deluded, not programmed, not victims, or trapped, or insane or stupid, not pathetic, not wicked, not weak, but human.
Like everyone else.
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I'd say it should only be legal to marry in Vegas. And get divorced in Reno, or wherever it is that you get divorced.
And only on particular days. It'd be like Moving Day.
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reboot slash could be fun :P.
Heh, watching the new movie, there were a couple of times I went 'Spock on the left, Kirk on the right, nicely framed, all glowery, this is deliberately set up to be captioned'.
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One could reasonably speculate that the only reason Mr. Mason ended up in court was because the "culture shift" implied in the repeal of Section 59 empowered a bystander to intervene and to call the police, where once they would have said and done nothing.
I'm sure that actually is true in other cases. In this case, he punched someone right in front of the central police station. It's not a solid move tactically. The main witness was a just-off-duty police officer.
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Can we pretend I made a joke about make-up sex instead?
Certainly. Is it this one?
More like this, actually. Ideal spot for wee ones to tool around on bikes, as long as someone adult is monitoring the road end of things.
Yeah, it's a good area, until you come off the side of the bridge along from the police station. There you have a narrow strip of footpath right on a very busy one-way street. On the bridge and the grass area on the east side of the river, no problem. At that point, the west side isn't safe.
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From having its meaning changed from its traditional one man/one woman essence.
Yeah, but you're picking a point in a continuum and saying 'we have to stay here'. We don't have polygamy any more, we let women pick who they marry instead of having their fathers pick for them, we allow women property rights within marriage - and that last, for less than a hundred and fifty years if you're talking English tradition. We allow divorce, and we no longer, by and large, expect people to stay in abusive marriages.
Anyway, that's the 'number of penises is the most important thing about marriage' argument. To me, it's almost irrelevant: marriage should be about love. The more precious you hold marriage, the odder it is to say you want to deny it to a group of people whose 'rights you're comfortable accepting'.
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A smack on the hand with a plastic spatula then they get a cuddle afterwards.
And so a new generation of BDSM enthusiasts is formed.
Lolsome. Possibly BDSM enthusiasts who also associate baking utensils with BDSM...
Sorry, guys, I don't find it funny. Perhaps because of the number of times any BDSMer will be told they MUST have been abused as a child.
That's not how it works. And it gets kind of old.
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And some of those people at least value the word so highly they think that's worth defending.
From?