Posts by TracyMac

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  • Hard News: The Public Address Word of…,

    +1 metadata and "big gay rainbow".

    As for Madiba, I've noticed a lot of people using this like Mandela was their favourite uncle. But does anyone here actually know the cultural norms in SA for using someone's tribal name? There are plenty of cultures where such names are only to be used by relatives and/or actual tribes, or people you're in a family-type relationship with. I'm sure a lot of people reckon they're getting away from colonialism by using a non-English name, but the man himself didn't seem to make any efforts to use any other name officially.

    It may well be fine, using the tribal name, but I don't know how many people using it know that for certain. It's been bugging me this week.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Speaker: Need,

    Yup, which city, please, so I can direct my shout-out.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Heads Up, in reply to andin,

    Unwarranted personal attack + completely missing the point equals two out of two so far for you, mate.

    Maybe time to chill the hell out?

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Capture: From Deco to Eco,

    That was one of my favourite houses too, when I was living in the burg. How nice to learn that it's had such an awesome and sensitive refurb.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: How do you sleep?,

    The Manifesto is not in copyright, and is freely available online. With footnotes. :-) http://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1848/communist-manifesto/

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to BenWilson,

    Uh, while I appreciate your broader point, I don't like the hint of "victim Olympics" in it. Yes, being violently assaulted and brutalized by a stranger is horrendous. Being (semi) stupified and assaulted by someone you kind of know, with the full knowledge of their mates and probably some of your friends, and who you may see around semi-regularly, can't really be qualified as "better".

    Sure, there are most definitely differences in "severity", but long-term effects are long-term effects. Not to mention the ramifications around betrayal of trust and questioning one's judgement on an ongoing basis.

    FWIW, I agree that there *probably* would be more trauma for a Lundy victim, but let's not pretend that it's an absolute "ranking" of stranger vs acquaintance rape. And since these offenses occur on the same continuum anyway (leaving aside actual offender psychopathy), assigning rank is really bloody unhelpful.

    I knew the person who assaulted me very well. The violence was "light" - I couldn't get away from a strong man twice my size, but there were no bruises on the outside. And while I'm not going "omg trigger!1!" every day, it's still with me 35 years later. So yeah.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to Craig Ranapia,

    Friends I hadn't seen for 30 years - we were at college together in Glen Innes - were discussing this last night. There are families with decades worth of entrenched abusive behaviour they are passing on to each generation. Some people escape, or were protected from it in various ways. Grand-dad abused all his kids and a lot of the cousins, but dad would *never* let his kids be unsupervised with his father.

    So, there was the agency - the dad's refusal to act as his father did. But that doesn't mitigate from the actual family culture, and the fact that some of the uncles became abusers, and the fact that grand-dad is talked about in whispers, and not dragged to the cop shop.

    So yes, individual agency, but I'm glad I'm not the only one to wonder at Tamihere family culture, and the different ways in which contempt for women and/or those more vulnerable than themselves may be manifesting.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Narcissists and bullies, in reply to stephen clover,

    Uh, are you being sarcastic, or is this yet another theoretical exercise, which seems to be the default stance of some people in this thread?

    I don't know the current standard of law when it comes to consent, but logically thinking - and no matter how many young men a young woman chooses to get intoxicated with - consent pretty much stops happening when the person concerned is too impaired to actually, you know, consent.

    If the response to the suggestion of group sex is anything unlike "Yes, please!", then it's not consent.

    If an averagely-mobile person is unable to speak or walk properly, or they are unconscious or semi-conscious (yes, that includes someone "sleeping it off", then no, it's not consent.

    If anyone can show me an example of what appears to be "buyer's remorse" - or a situation where there could be reasonable doubt - actually making it as far as a courtroom, I'd be fascinated.

    Because its prevalence is nowhere near as common as some of those indulging in intellectual exercises here seem to think - women will generally default to blaming themselves first in a situation where consent was "hazy" (a friend continues to blame herself for her assault when she was passed out on a couch). To get as far as actually making a complaint to police is a big step up from "embarrassed about sex with uncool dude" scenarios.

    The fact these young women weren't "brave enough" (FFS!!) to come forward is fairly likely due to the cultural bullshit about what consent actually means, and the perception that sexual assault is about strangers in alleyways, not "friends" who deliberately get you drunk so you can't say no.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Moving right along?, in reply to Emma Hart,

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    Waiting.. waiting...

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

  • Hard News: Moving right along?, in reply to Sacha,

    what humour is acceptable?

    If you can't think of ways to satirise or point out someone's stupidities other than making fun of their name or how they look, perhaps you need to think about exactly what it is you're trying to mock.

    Because "you look funny and you smell" kind of lost any pretensions of being incisive humour when I was about nine.

    Canberra, West Island • Since Nov 2006 • 701 posts Report

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