Posts by Danielle
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Speaker: The Mirror of Our Selves, in reply to JacksonP,
I'd particularly like Bernard Roundhill’s Auckland 2000 framed and on my wall. Amazing image.
Retro-futurism is the BEST.
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Hard News: Friday Music: Summer Time, in reply to Yamis,
Even the 30 for 30 doco’s with a topic that I knew nothing about or thought I wouldn’t be interested in I found totally engaging.
I agree. I've watched a few of them kinda by mistake and they're usually very good.
I would like to buy Chic tix now pls. December 2 is summer. Just.
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Muse: NZIFF 2013: Lights, Camera,…, in reply to Craig Ranapia,
Crap leg room, though. And I'm five foot three.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to Hebe,
“Your Awesomeness”: what a greeting!
I think this would be Jeff Spicoli's preferred honorific.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to SteveH,
I don’t think you could do that if the name in one of your passports did not match the name on your ticket.
I actually have done this several times - I'm not sure why I've never been stopped. (The disadvantage of doing it is that you can get a letter some weeks later saying "you have left the country permanently, start paying interest on your student loan" because you leave on one passport and return on the other. "But I'm right here!")
But to them and me it should be none of anyone’s business why or if you changed your name, just as it should not be anyones business why or if you didn’t change your name.
On an individual level, yes. But on a societal level, you do have to note that these choices are made within a particular context, and are part of a larger pattern. I'm all about choosing your choice, but I also think it's wilfully obtuse to ignore how those choices seem to go overwhelmingly one way. Particularly when one survey (I tweeted about this a while back, as I recall) in the USA found that about 50% of its respondents thought that women should be legally REQUIRED to change their names upon marriage. Crazypants!
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to Megan Wegan,
I just want to be "person who exists and is an adult autonomous female and apparently requires a title on forms", which is why Ms works for me.
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Hard News: Who else forgot to get married?, in reply to Megan Wegan,
If Mrs meant “grown woman”, not “married woman”, I’d be much happier. But it doesn’t.
Yeah, uh, "Ms" does. That's why it was invented. :)
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It's probably a bit late to tell Tom all the things feminism is likely to outlast, but one of them might be "contemptuous dudes telling feminists what feminism is going to do".
I would never change my name in a bazillion years, because it is rad, but I fight a passive-aggressive war over this with my in-laws: I sign everything with my birth name; they send all greetings or presents to the family using my supposed married name. YOU WILL NOT WIN THIS ONE, IN-LAWS. I will keep it up until I die if necessary.
Also, here is a thing that happened to me, based on South American naming traditions: because I was born in Venezuela (my parents happened to be there at the time) and my New Zealand passport used the Venezuelan birth certificate, I have my mother's birth surname appended to my usual surname on my New Zealand passport. But on my US passport I just have the usual surname. So I have two passports from different countries with slightly different names. I am still working out some way to use this to my advantage. Could I become a glamorous international spy?
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Southerly: Getting There is Half the Fun, in reply to Bart Janssen,
Oi. Some of my best husbands...
There are only a few reasons I keep renewing my US passport, but the most important one is that I don't ever have to experience immigration like you guys. Dear lord, what a nightmare. (Every so often I even get a "welcome home" from some stern-faced official who hasn't heard me speak. To which I silently respond "not really".)
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Houston airport has great food, but it's named after George Bush senior, which is off-putting. (Also, I have a sort of irrational dislike for Denver because I always seem to be landing in snowy turbulence and I am a Very Nervous Aeroplane Passenger with many unwarranted fears.)