Posts by Rosemary McDonald

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  • Access: Social media, disability…, in reply to Craig Young,

    This is why I love the DPA page on Facebook. It’s full of anger, debate, networking and radical ruminations

    Hah! I got thrown off. Too angry. Too radical. Too Human Rights obsessed. Too open about some of the less glamorous aspects of disability. Too keen to hold certain people to account for their compromised positions. Too demanding that ALL the disability stories get told....not just the happy clappy 'inspiration porn' stuff.

    Towards the end of my involvement on that page there was a conversation....if you could call it that... about parents opting to have their significantly disabled daughters sterilised. The issue was not black and white, and there were opposing points of veiw, and there were disabled women who were tentatively supporting these parents...having lived the reality themselves. Their voices were shot down. I tried to present the argument that 'blanket policy' won't work in the incredibly diverse disability arena...but no, those who thought that in some circumstances these procedures could be beneficial were, well, nazis. Alert Godwin here!

    I received PMs from a couple of complete strangers, aghast at the sheer aggressiveness of two of the predominant commenters. They were ganging up on anyone presenting an alternate view.

    I only signed up on FB to find out how the government managed to pass the PHDAct(2)....despite dozens of high profile disability/carer advocacy groups out there who should have been supporting the case from day one.

    My mission was successful.

    Removing myself from facebook was the best thing I ever did.

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Access: Social media, disability…, in reply to Hilary Stace,

    For anyone who is interested and can be bothered,

    You know Hilary, I downloaded that puppy the other day. Peter and I read through it.

    Nearly flicked it up here(somewhere)...and decided...what's the point?

    For a bloody start...the Plan is "2014-2018"....they will have the next one in the pipeline already.

    Secondly....judging by the submissions made for the first draft....the thing's a bit of a dead, stinking dog.

    Any changes will be minor tweaks endeavoring to make their wrong Plan work.

    AND...no damn mention of the Failed Funded Family Care scheme or the PHDAct(2)....despite a section of the Plan waffling on about 'rights' and the UN Convention.

    Your post talks about feeling isolated.

    Despite having a partner with a significant physical disability, having been involved with the care of children with disabilities...I read these documents and almost never feel like they have any relevance to our situation.

    Peter feels the same. He's done the working with a disability thing, living 'independently' thing, doing 'the ordinary life' stuff. Not only does he get little credit for this....but he is actively penalised for having achieved these things.

    His supports needs are assessed depending on his 'resources'....like me, and the fact he owns a home, and had savings....

    You talk about people finding out what they are "entitled" to....this might work in the compulsory education system...but when it comes to accessing health and disability supports through the Public Health system....there are NO entitlements.

    Ignore my grumpy rant....great post anyway.

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness,

    Okay...help me here. I get the basic idea of "gender essentialism", but my academic reading in Women's Studies began (and formally ended) in 1981 with the foundation WS paper at Uni.

    So, rather me dive blindly into the myriad of hits the google offers on the subject....could recommendations be made as to a sound (not tooo fringe!) website that could bring me up to speed?

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to ,

    He grew up surrounded by this stuff. What chance did he ever have of a normal life?

    Hands up who thinks abuse victims are more likely to become pedophiles?

    I've been thinking about this all afternoon.

    I don't know.

    At some point in our lives we choose the path we want to take.

    Some victims/survivors of child abuse(in all its forms) do not go on to abuse others.

    In fact....make that most.

    We make a conscious decision not to do to our kids what was done to us.

    It's not always easy. But we really, really don't want our children to feel like shit too.

    Any research into child abuse has to involve those who were abused but didn't go on to abuse others.


    Thanks again for those links.

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to ,

    At your recommendation I looked up Judith Harman.

    She gets it.

    The main work of stage two involves:

    Reviewing and/or discussing memories to lessen their emotional intensity, to revise their meanings for one’s life and identity, etc.

    Working through grief about unwanted or abusive experiences and their negative effects on one’s life.

    Mourning or working through grief about good experiences that one did not have, but that all children deserve.

    https://1in6.org/men/get-information/online-readings/recovery-and-therapy/stages-of-recovery/judith-hermans-stages-of-recovery/

    Thank you Steven...I've bookmaked that.

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Sacha,

    All hail the good ship google, and all who sail in her.

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness,

    Look!

    A genuine fan!

    Membership of the club based on what?

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Lucy Telfar Barnard,

    But I’m not convinced that Dr GS’s view of what counts as guilty would accord with what most people in society, and indeed the justice system, would count as guilty.

    The Fringe is being fanned....

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to Kyle MacDonald,

    I heard a rumour they were friends, but have no idea if that was true.

    New Zealand is a very tiny country.

    How many degrees of separation?

    How many stories get into the media because the protagonist 'knows' someone in the industry?

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

  • Up Front: Fringe of Darkness, in reply to lynne walker,

    My thoughts when reading this post, and Anke's article, and following all the obvious links (may take some time to get over some of it)...?

    Regarding FGS....

    Who appointed this woman to this post?

    Why?

    Kinda brings the entire faculty into disrepute.

    PS...I am an inveterate googler...I did NOT for a second even consider doing any kind of search on the un named actress...she said "no".

    Waikato, or on the road • Since Apr 2014 • 1346 posts Report

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