Posts by kowhai montgomery
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Up Front: Or It's Who We're Drinking With..., in reply to RaggedJoe,
It is super lovely to hear a male perspective on hugs. I think kiwi men are going to get huggier in time.
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Up Front: Or It's Who We're Drinking With..., in reply to Emma Hart,
Exactly this. It is profoundly confusing and depressing. It feels so much more performative to kiss a woman in a bar than you always want it to be.
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Hard News: Why did Stephen die?, in reply to paulalambert,
I really think retaining the right to search has a lot to do with it. Years ago when I lived off K Rd I had a van load of cops insisting they needed to enter my house when I was having a party because they 'followed a guy who smelled of pot to this address'. There were 4 officers. I refused to let them in as they couldn't even give me description of this 'suspect'. I told them I had keys to all areas of the house and would be happy to let them in if they had a lawful purpose.
I think they were hoping to catch someone smoking P and assumed by the look of me and my friends that busting up our party would net a few drug arrests (they were wrong).
Lazy policing.
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Up Front: The Up-Front Guides: The…, in reply to Phil Lyth,
I am tearing up just reading that. When this goes through I am going to bawl.
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OnPoint: Peek-a-boo, I can't recall…, in reply to Jonathan King,
Yep, right up there with 'not recalling' where you stood on the Springbok tour back in the day...
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia,
Definitely going to reread _The Dispossessed_ again, it has been a while. I do seem to only get into rereading things rather than trying something new though...
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia, in reply to BenWilson,
I am really a big fan. Proud that she is ours and in awe of what she does.
Still thinking a lot about exploitation as a result.
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia,
Just been watching the beautiful and powerful Alexa Wilson dance naked in a the middle of a circle of people. Performing variously with an axe, a sword and a tutti, she invited the audience/participants to write on her body and respond in various ways. This type of performance contained so much meaning, exchange, politics, sex, intellect and emotion.
Sex positivity is one thing but the whole rest of the web that we live in is still there so I don't think that sex positivity alone would bring about utopia, not that I think that is what Emma is saying,
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia, in reply to Jackie Clark,
This would also be mine.
There are times when we enjoy sharping our personhood against someone hard and unyielding, maybe someone mean or self-involved, we want to learn something about limits and ourselves. How much we can take. Who we are. Who we are not.
You can have connection without empathy and kindness but it is not advisable on a regular basis.
(I don't think BDSM excludes empathy and kindness by the way).
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Up Front: Towards a Sex-Positive Utopia, in reply to George Darroch,
Can I just say: Usher! *sqwee* *melts*