Posts by Jackie Clark
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Now that's clarifying. As ever, thankyou Russell. See, I should pay more attention. My concern is this - I work with children who, whilst they are not physically abused, some certainly get more than a little smack occasionally. My whole thing is strategies. as in if you are brought up in a culture where the occasional bash is normal, what do you do when you have children yourself? Lots of our parents don't smack, I know this, but some have a temper for sure. Take away the smacking and what do you replace it with? A piece of legislation does not tell you how NOT to smack, what to do if you're angry and you don't WANT to smack but can't think or don't know of any alternatives. And there doesn't seem to be much education around this, except for those most violent of parents. Most of my parents don't care about the legislation, they'll just keep on doing what they do, which is why if a child has been particularly destructive, often we do not feed back. I won't have a bashing on my conscience. What we've been doing is offering altermatives, but that's just us. It needs to be at a more accessible level. Our parents do HIPPY, some do parenting courses, so they're pretty enlightened, most of them, in their community. That is my worry. Legislating often alienates those it's supposed to educate/inform/whatever.
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Was I naive? I don't know. I'm normally healthily cynical, y'know. If they are going to have the law, I do think it needs clarifying.
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I didn't get the impression he wanted to change it, Lucy, just to amend the wording. He may have been lying, because, you know, he's a politician. See, this is why I didn't vote in the bloody referendum. It's all tricky and grey, and tres difficile.
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Interestingly enough, whilst I was at the Three Kings mall, John Boscawen stopped me. He's having a meeting on Monday night because he's trying to get the Govt to listen to the referendum results. We had an interesting discussion - all very reasonable, really. He's putting through a private members bill to clarify what "smack" means. I agreed that if clarified it may be more useful, I agreed that there was no point having a law that, in the majority of cases, wasn't going to be enforced strictly (ie parent gives child light smack = breaking the law, even if no-one ever does anything about it). I agreed it may be a constitutional issue. And then I read the little thing he gave me. He mentioned, when speaking to me, that Larry Baldock was going to be speaking. That is not written on the flyer. And the guy from Family First is going to be speaking. And I was lost to John forever. And I went on my way.
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Let me start by firstly saying I left home during high school because of the physical abuse and have nothing further to do with my mother other than through countless family court hearings with me trying to get my brothers and sisters removed from her care
The poor bugger. Insult to injury seeing his mother being splashed around the media, and him not wanting to say anything, and why would he? Isn't fighting to get his siblings away from her heroic enough? I wish him the very, very best - and he's another one I just want to hug, and hug, and hug. Sometimes life is a bitch, and sometimes your mother is one.
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But it's Wednesday, Sofie! Never you fear, it's the holidays in 3 weeks, so I'll be at the usual place at the usual time then!
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Nice little piece, BTW, Damian. I remember those water bottles so well. Doesn't happen at all really, does it? But then again I suspect that's because doggies aren't allowed to roam the streets anymore.
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My initial response to whiskey with dinner was ew. But then again, I hate whiskey, so my reaction is still ew.
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What a wonderful tale of abuse of position
We knew it was a bit naughty but the person who did it had been at TVNZ for a very, very long time, and I think she knew people - ie those archive people - very well. So we were grateful. Dad is/was Tom Clark, Damian.
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Welcome back, darling girl.