Posts by Isabel Hitchings
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If you do Oma Rapeti as a mash-up with the one that goes "Piko pikp piko toro piko" you will look well cultural. I wonder if you could get away with One Day a Taniwha?
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@markp - that's not the same thing though is it?
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Emma - so you with your formal, written down in the record books civil union can't adopt while we, who are living in sin because we're too slack to formalise anything, might be able to if we ask really nicely? That's ludicrous!
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I think I was very lucky kidswise. Number one was high needs enough enough that almost everything number two could throw at me seemed like a walk in the park but not quite difficult enough to put me off completely (though we did opt for about 18months bigger gap than originally planned).
I really feel for those people (of whom I know several) who get a very placid bub first time and are so thrilled that they rush into another pregnancy mere months later only to be hit by a howling horror the second time around.
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I have two kids but they are absolutely useless as alarm clocks. When your first baby prefers to be up past 10pm and sleeps the morning away it's pretty cool but now they are having to fit into school timetables I could wish for at least one lark in the family. Both boys crawl out of bed at the last possible minute and are slow and surly until we are well and truly late. In the holidays I rarely see the 8 year old before 10.30am.
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When I was at high school I resorted to putting the alarm clock over the other side of the room wrapped up, with copious sticky tape, in a note telling me why I needed to be out of bed.
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Sound enough, but smart people will usually see them as weasel words for "I advise".
The thing is though that I'm really not saying "I advise" I'm genuinely saying "here's some stuff I know, use it how you will". I'd also like to point out that, while earlier in the thread we were talking about unsolicited advice, in this context I'm talking to people who have sought out my expertise and even then I never tell them what to do.
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I do some voluntary work which involves helping people over the telephone. The first thing we are taught is "never offer advice. offer information" which I find really helpful advice-giving advice. Telling people what they should do can make them defensive and, if the advice is inappropriate or doesn't work, can cause them to mistrust you or even the whole organisation you are part of. Saying "some people find X helpful" or "have you considered Y" or "there's a study which suggests Z" is far less likely to backfire horribly. You are the expert in your own situation, information can be useful but only you can know what is going to work in your own life.
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Meanwhile, whose doctor tells them not to eat broccoli?
My Dad, a cardiac patient no less, has to avoid bananas and salt all his food due to something wiggy with his potassium levels. What is good healthy advice for the general population may be disastrous for an individual.
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So it sounds like glandular fever is some sort of universal shit-trigger then. I'm starting to feel grateful that when I got it I was only left with depression and was only sick for a bit over a year.
Respect and empathy to those dealing with long-term illness and its effects.