Posts by B Jones

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  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    I can't find those guys on Facebook - the link didn't work and although their names are popular searches, they don't seem to come up. If they've had to take their pages down that's kind of poetic justice.

    I guess whenever something gets popular enough, people who haven't had the chance to absorb the vibe and fit it will inevitably come and check it out, and trip up on the tacit rules of the longstanding members. Nobody's mentioned rap because it got thoroughly gone over back when Chris Brown was coming to Nz, and it's not that relevant here.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    Alfie, consider the possibility that prioritising your own experience over that of women who are experiencing the harassing will come across to a lot of people as a bit, well, you know...

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    I think something to improve the convenience of reporting abuse is worth exploring, but only to save the hassle of finding a security guard and pointing them at the right person. If the problem is security not taking it seriously, there's an easier fix than an app.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    Yes Stephen, or you've got better at noticing. Some things look worse because people are engaging with problems to change them - see also crime statistics.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    Yes, well, guys wouldn't recall it. Guys aren't in the best position to observe and report, and they rely on women to tell them about it. Which may not happen, for all sorts of reasons.

    I read Hunter S Thompson on Hell's Angels and gang rapes a while ago. This shit isn't new. There's always someone with the shock horror reaction saying we should do something about these mods/rockers/bikies/punks/hiphop artists/musclebros/Targeted Other of choice, and there's always someone saying notallwhatevers, and someone (hey, Hunter) saying don't you really sign up for that when you do X?

    Toxic masculinity is practically everywhere. Academia. Most religions. Atheism. Music. Media. Politics. Gaming. Business. Sport. The Military. If we blame the field in which it appears, we lose focus on what the problem really is, and maybe miss some ways to solve it.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    It's an effective solution, for some. Most people would prefer to live their lives without having to punch people, though, especially if you're small, not very aggressive and not keen on getting punched back.

    I would have loved someone to chase the Sevens dudebros who harassed me once down the street and clocked them a couple, it's just that all my friends and family were busy in their nice clothes trying to celebrate my wedding. Sometimes it's just not on the table.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    I haven't been to many gigs or festivals, but Fat Freddy's Drop on NYE was very well staffed and felt safe to me. I saw a couple of muscle bros flexing around, but the crowd was diverse, not particularly young, and there to have a chill time. One fight broke out but was quickly sorted.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    There's still an enormous wall of Not Ok posters in the foyer of MSD head office. I used to get my morning coffee passing under Russell's watchful eye. The young chap with the bike and tats was rather eyecatching.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    The cost of fixing that might be that security needs to have more of a presence than people are currently used to :-/

    I wonder, though, whether it's a change in behaviour we're seeing, or a change in its visibility and acceptance.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

  • Hard News: Fix up, young men,

    It's not women's responsibility to police men.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 962 posts Report Reply

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