Posts by B Jones
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Me too. I remember Rob from varsity (I was one of the quiet ones a couple of degrees of friendship away, reading my textbook in the Kirk foyer before POLS 101) and it's a hell of a thing to read about relatively close to your own circles. I have young daughters too, and my heart goes out to your family.
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I remember the story Maggie Barry told about being assaulted by Rolf Harris during an interview. Didn't get called out at the time; only years after. I remember the talk about young groupies in the 70s that broke out after David Bowie's death. Things have changed - we're more able and willing to call it out now. It's depressing and disheartening to see our friends and idols' clay feet, and depressing to think of how slow progress is, but maybe this will serve as the kind of consciousness raising that was so important to second wave feminism.
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But also, what Joanna said. You can't other it by blaming an influx of boofheads, when other stuff passes under the radar because it's camouflaged in your community.
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To be fair, there are more than a few communities right now where sexist behaviour has been exposed where it hadn't previously been visible, and they're struggling to come to terms with it. "Hey, this is wrong and we should stop it" is one of the less clueless response options. Even if it erases past activism, at least it makes progress toward a solution.
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I can't find those guys on Facebook - the link didn't work and although their names are popular searches, they don't seem to come up. If they've had to take their pages down that's kind of poetic justice.
I guess whenever something gets popular enough, people who haven't had the chance to absorb the vibe and fit it will inevitably come and check it out, and trip up on the tacit rules of the longstanding members. Nobody's mentioned rap because it got thoroughly gone over back when Chris Brown was coming to Nz, and it's not that relevant here.
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Alfie, consider the possibility that prioritising your own experience over that of women who are experiencing the harassing will come across to a lot of people as a bit, well, you know...
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I think something to improve the convenience of reporting abuse is worth exploring, but only to save the hassle of finding a security guard and pointing them at the right person. If the problem is security not taking it seriously, there's an easier fix than an app.
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Yes Stephen, or you've got better at noticing. Some things look worse because people are engaging with problems to change them - see also crime statistics.
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Yes, well, guys wouldn't recall it. Guys aren't in the best position to observe and report, and they rely on women to tell them about it. Which may not happen, for all sorts of reasons.
I read Hunter S Thompson on Hell's Angels and gang rapes a while ago. This shit isn't new. There's always someone with the shock horror reaction saying we should do something about these mods/rockers/bikies/punks/hiphop artists/musclebros/Targeted Other of choice, and there's always someone saying notallwhatevers, and someone (hey, Hunter) saying don't you really sign up for that when you do X?
Toxic masculinity is practically everywhere. Academia. Most religions. Atheism. Music. Media. Politics. Gaming. Business. Sport. The Military. If we blame the field in which it appears, we lose focus on what the problem really is, and maybe miss some ways to solve it.
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It's an effective solution, for some. Most people would prefer to live their lives without having to punch people, though, especially if you're small, not very aggressive and not keen on getting punched back.
I would have loved someone to chase the Sevens dudebros who harassed me once down the street and clocked them a couple, it's just that all my friends and family were busy in their nice clothes trying to celebrate my wedding. Sometimes it's just not on the table.