Posts by Isabel Hitchings

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  • Southerly: The Joys of Unclehood,

    I can say with some pride that my kids (aged 3 and 6) have never darkened the door of McDonalds - largely due to the lack of meatless options. Would that the rest of their diet was pure though. They request take-away pizza for dinner on an almost nightly basis. And I swear it's the pizza connection that is the reason one of the first words my oldest learned to spell was "hell".

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    "You're my child, and I love you ESPECIALLY when I vehemently disapprove of your choises. And if things turn to shit, you know where I am and, no matter how pissed off you make me, my door's always open."

    This is a wonderful response and I'd like to think I'd say something very similar were it my child.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    Hey Is, how glad do you think I am right now that my mum doesn't read here?

    I'm fairly sure I've suggested my parents have a look here sometime - hoping I don't live to regret that.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    **Then it implies that women have lower sex drives than men, which is laughable.**

    I think this stereotype is particularly damaging for young men and women who are just starting to figure out the whole sex thang. I remember freaking and being sure there was something desperately wrong with me the first time I tangled with a bloke with a lower libido (or even just more inclination to wait a bit) than myself.

    I also suspect that the idea that guys are meant to want it more and girls need persuading feeds into some of those situations where consent gets a bit ambiguous. After all how can "no" really mean "no" if the woman doesn't feel that it's OK to say "yes" if she wants to?

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Stories: The Internet,

    I spent 1998 sick with glandular fever. I remember very little of that year but one thing I do recall is creeping into my flatmate's bedroom while she was at work and 'borrowing' her computer and internet connection. I really don't know what I was looking at back then but I rapidly discovered that I could fill whole days very easily.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    There's definitely some interesting aspects in how women's appearances are primarily policed by other women; most of the time, when I make an effort to dress up, I'm not doing it for men.

    Yup - if I put on a dress and heels and lippy I'm doing it for the women who may see and judge me. If I'm after male attention (which I'm not usually) I find my (faded and baggy) Star Trek t-shirt is a winner.

    I did a life drawing class about 10 years ago. Drawing the female models was fine (though I'd have loved more curvy, wrinkly, interesting subjects) but I always landed up leaving my pictures of men looking under-endowed due to not wanting to spend too much time focusing on the groinal region.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    I've now written a post on the topic three times and deleted it because it didn't say what I wanted to say. I get tangled up in the 'yes, but no, wrong here but right here' and end up with four paragraphs that don't end up saying anything useful.

    You too huh?

    I think there's a big gap between what the sex industry can be and what it often is.

    I suspect that a lot of what is "wrong" with the sex industry is really an exaggeration of what is "wrong" with society as a whole. I wonder what pron would look like in a society with true gender equality and no weird hang-ups about sex?

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    re what not to wear and the like - I am utterly bemused by the idea that a nice frock and a bit of lippy could change my life.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Up Front: They Have the Best Rides,

    And I should add that these people, in openly blogging as sex workers, open themselves up to an astonishing amount of abuse. Ren's had 'don't come crying to me when you get raped' from a radfem

    Because blaming the victim of rape is such a __feminist__thing to do.

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

  • Hard News: Rain on his parade,

    yup. "protecting children"... from boobs. might have to get some new amendments to the legislation regarding safety equipment for breastfeeding babies.

    Indeed - I feel very little call to "protect" my children from the things their eyes first focussed upon

    Christchurch • Since Jul 2007 • 719 posts Report

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