Posts by Steve Barnes
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Well, that worked out well didn’t it….
Go away to cook dinner and see what happens?.
I can’t even mention the Kardashians now.
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At least I got my Gravatar back.
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Oh joy, entertainment ;-)
I see the Herald is running a “spot the difference” game. -
Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to BenWilson,
I have a perfectly good memory of what being raised by hippies was like,
Not all hippies were bad. As far as I know there were only 4 of us, me, Dennis, George Harrison and a guy called Mick, not Mick Jagger, this one was Janet’s boyfriend.
We all had long hair, it was the style at the time, there was another guy, who’s name was, ironically as it turns out, Terry Flower, he wasn’t a hippy as far as we were concerned, he was a truck driver who scared his wife so much she didn’t like to wake him if he fell asleep in front of the TV. wasn’t much on back then.…
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Sofie Bribiesca,
I see yours has turned all grey.
So it has…
I have been disowned by Gravatar…
sob..
why???
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Sofie Bribiesca,
Now I’m all fucked up inside my head man.
See what happens when you try to internalise a complex situation inside your head, eh girl?.
Just look at yer picture,
see?..
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I have thought a lot about the not listening thing and the dismissal of statements that state “Not all men are rapists” mean “Its not my fault, I’m a nice guy”.
Patriarchy and its heir apparent,chauvinism, depends on this reinforcement and as so the actions of the minority give benefit to the majority, even if the majority are good guys. That guys have been gifted dominion over women by some unseen hand of fate is a huge problem for the entire Human race to consider and its not OK.I do listen, I do care but do I need to apologise?.
’When Labour leader David Cunliffe went to a Women’s Refuge forum and apologised for being a man, he was trying to make an important point. Domestic violence, as he went on to say, is perpetrated overwhelmingly by men against women and children. That does not mean, as those who applauded Mr Cunliffe seem to think, that men in general are prone to violence against women or that all of their gender are somehow responsible for it. The point he wanted to make was quite the opposite: that no self-respecting man would ever, under any circumstances, hit a woman, and that any man who does so is deeply and despicably unmanly’.
Some, including John Key, felt insulted because most men were good fathers and partners. Others backed Cunliffe’s bravery. But the appalling facts and statistics that Cunliffe outlined in his speech were left out of the discussion. I do not believe he intended to divert the debate to his apology but, sadly, it happened.’
CECILE MEIER
Sometimes we completely miss the meaning while trying to either make or score, a point. -
Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Alfie,
Damn… name supression of prominent NZers really gets in the way of intelligent discussion.
Yes, 'tis a thorn in our side.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to Alfie,
But then I’m just an old guy, so what would I know.
An aside if I may...
I found myself shouting "Get off my lawn" the other day, admittedly to the neighbour's dog but... -
This, from someone you could dislike for quite a few reasons...
After my column, various low-level political operatives asked me who it was. It was tittle-tattle for them, I thought, but then I realised they were checking whether the predator was on their team. They expressed no concern for the victim and no outrage.
Through the week, our "prominent" New Zealander's media mates rang journalists to minimise his offending. The spin was that the judge didn't believe the woman and, sure, their mate had made a forceful pass, as he does, but not an assault. Yeah, right.
These are the enablers. They defend, minimise and excuse sex crimes. And no doubt Harris had a legion of them. They disgust me every bit as much as the predator. Those in power, those in the media and other "prominent" New Zealanders all know who the offender is. They know to be wary. Just like those who knew Harris as the "octopus".
The nature of this "prominent" New Zealander's attack, and his reputation, suggests to me that he is a serial offender. Our system leaves his other possible victims suffering in silence. It also fails to warn his future victims. That's how Harris was able to get away with it. His fans didn't know what he was like; those on the inside did.
And there's our rape culture. Our system protects the offender and puts women at risk.
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Hard News: Fix up, young men, in reply to raena,
You raised them.
So all these delinquent, misogynist boys were "Raised" by solo Fathers?
I think not, this is not just a case of blaming all men, we all have to look at ourselves.
