The last person to call me a neo-liberal - Gail Dines - has publicly stated that she's okay with some women being "thrown under the bus" for the Greater Good. Sex workers, trans women, kinky women, etc. I am absolutely not okay with that. You can call me a libertarian for that, but you might want to check that some of these big words mean what you think they mean first.
Oh and as for drumming up comments – I strongly suspect your more fun focussed postings generate vastly more comments :P.
Heh, I deliberately framed the argument so it focused on people, which eliminates people's favourite bullshit debate points, like arguing about whether it's Life or not, and what you're allowed to call it.
I haven't even had any hate mail. It's most peculiar.
without anyone else getting audit privileges over her motives and character
We’ve been re-watching The West Wing over the last year or so. (It’s depressing how little has changed in everything but LGBT rights.) Abortion is a big issue in the last series. Santos has an argument with a Pro-Choice woman in which he says, “Do you support abortion to choose the sex of a child? Then you support limits on abortion.”
And this time around, I thought about it for a while. Whatever a woman’s reason for wanting a termination, if you refuse her access, you are forcing her to continue a pregnancy she doesn’t want. That’s a pretty terrible thing to do to someone, and then what does the future for that child look like?
In the end, for me, it has to come down to practicality. Back in 77, legislators deliberately chose to not include a rape exception, because they believed that if they did, women would lie about having been raped. Now they just lie about being crazy, which is actually better. If you have a list of proscribed reasons for abortion, women will lie to access it.
So yeah, let’s deal with these things with education, with changing social attitudes, outside of our abortion laws.
Can we be a bit careful of language here?
With the proviso that a woman who has had a pregnancy terminate for whatever reason, gets to refer to that pregnancy using whatever fucking language she wants.
It's the one thing that has held true for all.
Oh, Sue. I think that's one of the hardest things to say, that it sucked and it was awful, and we'd still do it over again.
(We drove from the small town, and I was the support person, but going through all that in a strange place? Yeah.)
Were we silly for just relying on the pill? Perhaps. Feel free to judge, if it makes you feel better.
That ALRANZ link says 53% of women having abortions weren't using contraception. That means 47% were. Sometimes contraception fails. You don't have to be stupid to have an unplanned pregnancy.
I am aware that my last two columns have been No Fun. Next time, I promise we'll have some fun.
Also worth noting that the usual 90-days’ notice to vacate can be reduced to 42 days if the house is sold or is wanted by the landlord for a family member. This is not uncommon and is a panic-inducing situation for the tenant.
This happened to good friends of ours. The "family member" turned out to be "bulldozing the house and building a retirement village". After the stress of having to find somewhere else to live on short notice, none of the tenants wanted to take the landlord to the Tribunal, they just wanted to get on.
Worst. Sports commentator. Ever.
Seriously. Worse than Justin Marshall.
Although perhaps the Colemans were told that Eileen’s birth was, say, July 1891 as it would put Eileen’s date of birth before the divorce had been applied for, i.e. while Eliza was still legitimately married to Winter.
Ah, yes! That would make sense of it. I was puzzling over this yesterday, because normally you legitimise a child by making them younger than they are, not older.
or more male-oriented discussion? I’ve got a few thoughts, but am wary of clogging up this thread and talking-not-listening.
The internet is a very big place. You may think it's a long way down the road to the chemist, etc...
But seriously. You get this discussion is about men, right? And the most valuable part of it is men actively engaging with it? I appreciate that you've distinguished "talking-not-listening" from just talking, but we need men talking about this. Women, like Tess says, have always talked about it, but quietly, in corners, where men wouldn't hear.
After you've actually listened on this topic, it's hard to shut up the next time one of your mates jokingly calls a woman a "fucking slag". But I reckon it's even harder after you've actually engaged on this topic, listened and responded.
To be crystal clear, no thread of mine has ever been a place where men aren't welcome to speak, and I'm not going to start now. There are women-only spaces for people who find that too uncomfortable. Likewise, whatever discussion you want is out there somewhere, if this is too uncomfortable.