Alice Ronald and Tess Rooney’s comments are lifted verbatim!
There’s cheap content and all that
and then there’s theft…
Well. Shit. A couple of days ago I got an email from a Press journo I know, asking if he could put another journalist in touch with me about using some of the stuff from this thread. I said yes, intending to ask commenters whose stuff he wanted for their permission. And that was the last I heard.
I'm going to assume there's been a miscommunication somewhere. All I can do is apologise to anyone who didn't want their story spread all over their local daily.
Really? What if the informals outnumbered the first choice? Or if you don’t bother to vote at all – could a low, low turnout be construed as a protest. I really hate this whole process and how we have arrived at this point.
Really. Really really. A vote is not a protest. If you want to protest, actually protest. If you have at any point objected to the cost of the referenda, I'd suggest binning your ballot paper. It's the cheapest thing to do, and will be reflected in the % turnout.
I was mildly annoyed to see Annette King (I think) on the news the other night advocating that if you wanted to keep our existing flag, you should vote 1 (or 0) across all the flags in this referendum. That's spoiling your vote. Again, you may as well not vote.
We also moved around a fair bit when I was a child. And since moving to Christchurch when I was eighteen, I've lived in ten places. Four of those, with my children. The place where we've lived for the last six years, which I'd intended to be my home for life, and to be the 'home' the kids could always come back to when they were grown, has encompassed for them the earthquakes, disruption to their schooling, and the break-up of their parents' relationship.
I really valued the stability of my mother's house, where I lived from 6 to 18, and where she lived until she died five years ago. That was Home for me, and remains my mythological home now it's passed from our family. As Jackie says, the place your parents move to after you leave Home is never home.
What I share with my mother is the sense that home isn't so much the building as the garden around it.
Thanks Geoff. I guess at some point today I should get dressed and go buy a paper. It still feels quite unreal.
Would there be a men’s quota as well as a women’s quota?
That's how it functions, both in the Green Party, and Trudeau's cabinet. It's not 'there must be at least X% of women', it's 'there must be at least X% of women, and of men'.
I sometimes argue that in one critical metric, men are strongly disadvantaged – our lifespans are several years less than women’s. What could be more important than that? So we should stop funding research and treatment of women’s health issues until the gap is closed.
Well, you're in luck there, because the gap is closing. We also know why women live longer than men. Partly it's because, to vastly over-simplify, testosterone is physically bad for you. Mostly it's behavioural. Men are less likely to go to the doctor. They're more likely to die from homicide and suicide. They're more violent. They drink more. Why? Because taking care of yourself, physically and emotionally, is seen as girly. Unmasculine. It's the patriarchy, dude. Men would live longer if they softened the fuck up.
What could be more important than that?
Quality of life? How much you earn, and so how much you can save for your longer retirement? How safe you feel, on the street, in your home?
On that note, how seriously do tough-on-crime types take rape culture? With the usual bluster of the usual suspects? Or do they take the ‘uncovered meat’ view and fob it off as PC gone mad?
"Tough on crime" is actually "tough on criminals". Well, poor brown criminals, not middle-class white guys who assault taggers. "Tough on crime" is also pro-smacking. It's weird in McVicarCoskrie land. There's about as much interest in rape culture as there is in poverty and racism as drivers of crime. Consensual sex in a book, now, that's a different matter...
I’m impressed with the clarity and sincerity of what she’s said and as far as I’m concerned the matter is settled. If people think the issue itself is talked out, I’m happy to close the thread.
I agree entirely.
Heh. I love that while I was typing, I managed to say the same thing as Russell, and the same thing as Ben.
Why did Katharine deserve to be bullied.
When someone is saying things that are genuinely upsetting to other people - and I hope it's clear to everyone that this is an 'emotionally hot' topic for some people - it's not the person who responds who is causing the problem. This is Missing Stair stuff - the social expectation is that the people getting hurt will keep quiet to keep the peace. If they do speak up, they're condemned for causing trouble. They didn't: the person who hurt them did. If people behave badly, it's okay to treat them as if they've behaved badly. Katharine was asked to tone it down, she didn't.
But this is not a thread about moderation.
Ben's point about the chips being energy-dense food was basically what I meant by "fuelling" people. The chips are going to stop you feeling hungry. Your kids aren't going to be asking for more food in an hour. That's the thing about high-fat foods. (I have hypoglycaemia. I spent years trying to manage it using 'complex carbohydrates'. Turns out by far the best thing when I'm having a sweaty spinny meltdown is fat.) So it's not about 'nutrition', it's about 'energy'.
But the thing is, biological organisms are complex. If it was as simple as 'energy in, energy out', then everybody's results would be the same. But, to take things to extreme for a moment, if you put me and my hypoglycaemia on the same food-exercise balance as someone with PCOS, you'd get vastly different results. And every individual is going to be somewhere on that continuum.
But if you concentrate on exercise, there'll be health benefits for most people, whether or not they lose any weight. Surely that's preferable.
“Bad” food is not free either. Something was paid for it. Take your example of hot chips. How much did they cost and how many people were you feeding them to? I’ll then provide you with a healthier alternative for the same cost.
Dude. 4 people. $4.
Also, I fed a family of 2 adults and 2 preschoolers on $40/week grocery money in the mid-90s. I was on a Sickness Benefit because I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and I still cooked six nights a week, and made my own fucking muesli bars. I was raised in a house where my mum fed a family of six on a part-time minimum-wage job. You'll forgive me if I sincerely doubt you have anything to teach me.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to feed my children some fucking hot chips.