Posts by Emma Hart

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  • Up Front: Just Like Unicorns, in reply to Ianmac,

    Interesting in the biblical sense. The Church insists on the “Virgin Mary.” A whole society is built around this idea. Of course the Hebrew meaning of virgin was just to mean “a good woman.”

    Yeah, I think it’s one of those things it’s really important to keep pointing out: “virgin” didn’t mean what it does now. (And, y’know, also, Bible, not written in English. “Witch” is not a word in Hebrew.)

    I think I’d add though, given that each person responds differently, that any time you try something new / with a new partner, you are exploring what is, for you (individually or mutually), virgin territory. So it’s a continuing process.

    Yeah, isn’t it great? At my age, I’m still finding out stuff about what my body likes. It’s a continual learning process.

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  • Speaker: The secret Christchurch…,

    Yeah, these are thoughts that have recently started running through my family's minds as well. We didn't even think about leaving in the immediate aftermath of the quakes. But now... There's what Stephen describes as "ambient despair" (I think): this utter low-level but absolutely constant sense of stagnation and decline that's an effort to push away. Just this morning, we've been told our leaking roof is actually undetected earthquake damage, and I have no hope at all that it'll be covered by insurance. Maybe we should actually just walk away.

    Instead, we are valiantly buying raised beds for our sodden garden and just soldiering on.

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  • Hard News: Jones: The contender leaves, in reply to steven crawford,

    It is a given that any sort of violence against women and children (or other people) is unacceptable within our community’s today.

    No, it’s not. Theoretically, sure, but when the guy is someone you know, someone inside your community? The first thing many people will do – “even” white middle-class well-educated people – is make excuses for him. Stress. Drink. Things she did.

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  • Southerly: How I Became a Grumpy Old…, in reply to BenWilson,

    I thought he invented it to give it to Woman, in order to make Child :-)

    Beer almost certainly invented by women.

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  • Hard News: Gower Speaks, in reply to Bart Janssen,

    But I still think the MSM could take a punt and start representing the poll data in a manner more closely linked to reality.

    There is one thing they could, and should, be doing which is incredibly simple: include the undecided/don't know/wouldn't say vote. Making it disappear isn't "dealing with what's there". One of the most interesting things about that last poll, surely, was the rise in the undecided vote. These are the people who will, very probably, decide the election. If the undecided vote is, say, twice the difference between the 'left' and 'right' coalition blocks, that's pretty damn important, AND it makes for an interesting story.

    I do not understand why it isn't done.

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  • Up Front: The Kids are All Right, in reply to BenWilson,

    How about their desire for privacy?

    I sort of thought myself into a hole into a hole contemplating this question, because I think there are so many other factors that play into an individual's desire for privacy. How private you want to be is a factor of how hard you have to work to keep yourself safe.

    So if you need a more locked-down environment for some aspects of your life, that's always available. I can have open/unlocked accounts on both Facebook and Twitter, and still have Fetlife. For safety reasons, that area of my life needs to not be open to every passing weirdo.

    There is a mental exercise I wish social media platform designers would carry out, and it's this. "I am a woman who has just left an abusive relationship. I wish to interact with my friends, and still be safe." Google+ failed that spectacularly. Now it's just that place where Eastern European men I've never met add me to Circles and I can't do shit about it.

    So, what is it that people are going to find out about you? That you got wasted before your exams and you weren't "sick" after all? Or that you're queer, or kinky? Where you live so they can stalk you? That you had an abortion, or attempted suicide? Even for teens, the risk factor varies so much.

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  • Up Front: The Kids are All Right, in reply to Jolisa,

    Even though he’s been cornered on the marriage equality question, carbon tax, and asylum-seekers, Abbott is so keen to ingratiate himself with these kids that he bends his rules:

    The jaw-dropping moment for me was when, after the marriage equality question, Abbott said, "Let's have a guy question."

    He actually said that. With those words and everything. Let's have a guy question.

    if LJ thinks more women should be in power she should join the Liberal Party and “work her way up”

    Actually proving her point, as this is demonstrably not possible for a woman in the Liberal Party.

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  • Up Front: The Kids are All Right, in reply to BenWilson,

    How does it look to them? I’m curious if this hyperconnectedness is something people born to it actually complain about.

    This is a complicated question. Well, it's a complicated answer. Are they aware of the drawbacks? Some. Are they particularly worried about them? No. They have yet to have a potential employer go through their social media postings. We've had some issues with bullying which was over social media, but they don't associate that with the technology. Why would they? It's just like talking.

    My feeling is that their expectation of privacy is much lower, and that's just the way it is.

    But. My kids are also very tech-y, even for their age group. My son's obsessed with quantum computing. For my daughter, texting and social media help remove some of the communication barriers from her hearing impairment.

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  • Up Front: The Kids are All Right, in reply to BenWilson,

    Whilst older generations may have built the internet, I think X-generation can at least lay a claim to probably having built most of the World Wide Web, and I sure didn’t have me one of those back then.

    My 18 year old son hangs out with us and our friends of a Saturday night, and plays board games and drinks gin with us and joins in our conversations. Last weekend we were talking about how, actually, it was our parents who were promised jet-packs, that old joke aside. Our futuristic literature promised us a bleak Cyberpunk dystopia, and boy have we been working on it. We asked Kieran what he'd been promised, and his immediate unconsidered reply was "VR".

    His generation takes utterly for granted the increased connectivity the net brought me and Ben and our lot. That stops being a positive and is just impossible to imagine the lack of. He spends all his nights with his friends - on Skype. What they're having to grapple with is over-connectivity, the invasiveness, the lack of privacy. The permanent record of every dumb thing they've ever said or done. The same thing can look quite different depending on when you came in.

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  • Up Front: The Kids are All Right, in reply to Idiot Savant,

    Obvious answer: because most of them aren’t legally allowed to. The law tells them at a crucial time that their political views don’t count. Is it any wonder they react accordingly?

    Voting age is one of those things we need to be challenged on, because while it seems quite natural if you don't think about it, it's actually bloody hard to justify, particularly if you're actually talking to one of the people you'd have to tell you don't think they're responsible enough. "It's an arbitrary line. We have to draw it somewhere. Why not 17? Because... Shut up, that's why."

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