Posts by Danielle
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Fact is, having a baby later (for both sexes) increases issues. Are we allowed to discuss this or is it banned?
Of course it's not *banned*. This is clearly, as Lucy said, all about the context. (I would like to thank Lucy for her sterling work on this thread, particularly as she is the owner of a still gloriously fertile womb.) We aren't actually having a discussion about issues with older parenthood so far. I hope at some point this thread becomes less about blaming women for 'not doing their lives right' and more about dealing with those issues.
Let me recap. In this thread, we've so far had:
1. Someone bitching at older parents for having the temerity to procreate over 40.
2. Someone bitching at 'Generation X and Y' women for having the temerity to travel and have fun before having children, thereby increasing their chances of birth defects. (The 'and it isn't even for their careers, either!' shit was just the icing on the cake. What, so if it's *important* women can put off sprogging, but if they're just frivolously wandering around India they deserve some shit for it? Nice.)
3. Someone responding to the quite reasonable assertion that women could make their own choices about this, thankyouverymuch, with some infuriating cracks about the 'patriarchy' and our inability to just accept biology! Because it's science! Silly feminists and their obsession with choices, they don't understand their ever-deteriorating egg stores! If only I told them about SCIENCE then they'd all understand!And some of you are apparently shocked - shocked! - that we might be just a tad fucking irritated by the direction of this conversation so far? Really?
I'm sorry to sound like Cranky McGee here, but yeesh. This has pushed nearly every button I have.
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Thanks for the heads-up there, Morgan, because none of us would have known that otherwise. We don't get *any* 'OMG YOU HAZ NO TIME BREED BREED BREED' messages from the age of thirty or anything.
Also: fucking hell. Unpacking all the offensive assumptions in this thread might cause my brain to explode.
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I increasingly feel that many Gen X & Y women feel entitled to everything without having to give up years of partying and travel to have babies in their 20's or early 30's
Yeah, how dare we feel entitled to full personhood and our own choices, like someone with a penis or something. Where are our selfless maternal instincts, I ask you?
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None of that nasty store bought withering I'll have you know.
Store-bought withering isn't *really* withering though, is it? It's actually withering-like *product*. And then you'd be in thrall to the Big Scorn Industry.
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Via Megan Wegan, Ian Grant has the answer for you.
Well, you ladies.I am particularly annoyed that I inadvertently followed his advice by getting married at 27. But I did everything else totally wrong! Yay!
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grey haired first time parents in their late 40s
So when is the acceptable age for procreation?
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Christ, no wonder no-one likes them.
Sigh.
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Jeez. It seems like everywhere I go on the NZ internet, Tom pops up to give us all what-for. What made him Mr Angrypants?
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Oh GOD, it's American football season again. It comes around every year so *quickly*. Sigh.
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Luuuxury! When *I* were a young lass writing my thesis, Sam, we typed out all our bibliographies by hand! And we were happy to do it! Oh yes! :)