Posts by Megan Wegan
Last ←Newer Page 1 2 3 4 5 Older→ First
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Emma Hart,
Want to find yourself in a situation where Megan has pretty much unbridled power over you? Ask me how!
But as we discussed last night, I will only do things for your own good. Which reminds me, aren't you meant to be on the couch right about now?
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Emma Hart,
Megan is lovely. Believe everything she says.
W00t! This is fun! Course, certain people would never speak to me again on the basis of our emails/texts, so I shall wield this power carefully.
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Emma Hart,
Oh, that is NOT what I heard…
How far down that road do you want to go, my love?
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Russell Brown,
You have to give people room to take Megan's second option. (Yes, yes, I just giggled smuttily.)
Oh, puh- lease!
Dude! I left it alone, couldn't you?
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Isabel Hitchings,
Doesn't that just come under the general heading of "don't be a dick"?
Yeah, but it's surprising how often people see their keyboards as an excuse to abdicate that particular responsibility.
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Emma Hart,
I always google unfamiliar terms before leaping in but there have been a number of times where I've felt someone is using a term in a way that is slightly different from the definition I know or that, with the best will in the world, I'm not quite seeing their point and I find it really hard to judge the point at which I can ask without being told "we don't do 101".
Yeah, but there's a way to ask, you know? (And I am not pointing this at you, at all) A lot of the time, the question seems to be "what right do you have to call me privileged, you big meanie!", rather than - "hey, help me learn here, what am I doing wrong?"
So yeah, I spend a lot of time here explaining what terms mean, words I've used for so long I didn't twig to them needing explaining.
And I am happy to do that here, too, because this isn't an explicitly feminist space, and it's also a learning space. I just think if you're gonna turn up at feminist blogs, sitting back and listening, and learning some of the terms before you go all "Here's how you are wrong!" might be a way forward.
But yeah, God knows we all make mistakes. I'm not perfect, nor is anyone I know. (I also feel really bad that I appear to have turned Russell's post into a critique of feminist discourse.)
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to giovanni tiso,
I regret to say I went for the latter. But then one learns. It also helps to have kind teachers I must say.
As have I, on a number of occasions. And it took, as you say, kindly teachers to point out where I was going wrong. This is why I care about privilege not being used to shut down debate, cos if we all did a little learnin' we'd all be better off.
And then I could teach the world to sing, in perfect harmony. God, I am so naive.
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to giovanni tiso,
Actually, the root is exactly the same. I see no reason to be confused.
Pffft, you’re just showing your perfect-english-speaking privilege.
(Sorry. I am slightly punch-drunk)
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to giovanni tiso,
They have a lovely saying in Naples: "nobody is born taught" (as opposed to learned). We all need to get schooled at some stage, and you can choose to be a dick or not while it happens, but that's about it.
And the thing is, being "called out" sucks, but you can choose to look at it two ways - "hey, I'm learning, here's this thing I didn't know, and I can try to be better for it", or "Bite me! You don't know me. I'm not ableist/sexist/homophobic".
And the former is waaaaaay harder than the latter.
-
Hard News: #NetHui: it's all about you, in reply to Bart Janssen,
Wham
NO!
Oh come now, it's even apposite:
Time can never mend the careless whispers, of a good friend
To the heart and mind, ignorance is kind
There's no comfort in the truth
Pain is all you'll find