Posts by Isabel Hitchings
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If someone is not in a fit state to give consent then it is rape.
Consent is not a one-time thing - sex is only consensual as long as all parties continue to consent. The second anyone withdraws consent or is rendered unable to give consent then sex stops or it is rape.
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If she said "no" a miscarriage of justice has occured. If she said "yes" a miscarriage of justice has been averted.
But writing about a fantasy prior to the alleged rape does not constitute consent to anything. Consent needs to be given in the moment and can be withdrawn at any stage of proceedings.
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I'm trying to figure out how anything that happens before someone says "no" is relevant.
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Most of my fantasies are things I either wouldn't or couldn't do in real life (that's why they are fantasies and not, y'know, memories) and most of the rest are things I would want to negotiate very carefully before trying them out. The idea that speculating about doing something counts as explicit consent to have something not quite the same done to me is abhorrent.
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Often science fiction is the best way to take a step back and examine the human condition.
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Perhaps I'm just more comfortable with the K Road flavour of muntedness: those are my wasted loons.
I know that in my days of wandering CHCH by night it was fairly probable that any munters I met would be my munters
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I've always really loved that photo of Mika - the combination beauty, confidence and playing with people's preconceptions is hugely compelling.
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I have adored Hanif Kureishi since I was a teenager and he was the Next Big Thing.
My parents have recently become hugely enamoured with Haruki Murakami and gave me South of the Border, West of the Sun for my birthday. It's lovely and I'm looking froward to reading more of his.
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Also - Baby on Board signs. I'm pretty sure they come free with some carseats meaning you can let them clutter up your floor or feel guilty about dumping plastic into landfill or hang them in your car.
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Big baby, small baby makes no difference - it's the position that counts. At least in my experience. My nicely positioned 9lb10oz second was eleventy squilion times less painful than my 6lb13oz posterior until the last minute first.