Up Front by Emma Hart

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Up Front: Or It's Who We're Drinking With...

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  • kowhai montgomery, in reply to Emma Hart,

    Exactly this. It is profoundly confusing and depressing. It feels so much more performative to kiss a woman in a bar than you always want it to be.

    wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 485 posts Report Reply

  • kowhai montgomery, in reply to RaggedJoe,

    It is super lovely to hear a male perspective on hugs. I think kiwi men are going to get huggier in time.

    wellington • Since Nov 2006 • 485 posts Report Reply

  • Sacha, in reply to BenWilson,

    She held on back like a child

    That resonates. thank you.

    Ak • Since May 2008 • 16838 posts Report Reply

  • BenWilson,

    It's still fresh in my memory, it was earlier this year. I'm still getting random associations flooding back of her at strange times, often brought on by touch. Today was full of them, and also full of touching, and man hugs and every other kind of hugs. Her son, my uncle, married, in the same church that we said goodbye to her in, her church. The same vicar presided over both sacraments. It was clear which kind he enjoyed the most, so caught up in the moment, he forgot to bring his bible, and had to run off mid-service. He played the music selections from his iPhone over the PA. "What if the phone rang during the service?" I asked him afterward. His eyes widened, and he giggled nervously. "Put it on flight mode from now on", I said. He touched my shoulder and thanked me.

    Auckland • Since Nov 2006 • 8659 posts Report Reply

  • Kirsten W, in reply to Emma Hart,

    You're right. There's pretty much no funding for sexuality research. Did a scan to see what's been done post homosexual law reform and BORA to look at whether those bits of legislation have made any difference, especially to GLBTTIF experience of the workplace. Found next to zilch. So, PSA and Vic uni have started a research project.

    Wellington • Since Nov 2012 • 1 posts Report Reply

  • Emma Hart, in reply to Kirsten W,

    So, PSA and Vic uni have started a research project.

    Yeah? I'd be interested to hear more about that.

    Christchurch • Since Nov 2006 • 4371 posts Report Reply

  • Islander, in reply to Kirsten W,

    especially to GLBTTIF experience of the workplace. Found next to zilch. So, PSA and Vic uni have started a research project.

    I would also be seriously interested – especially if you could include asexuals (I realise we are rare – but we are.)

    Big O, Mahitahi, Te Wahi … • Since Feb 2007 • 5643 posts Report Reply

  • Emma Hart,

    I am delighted to say that I've just arranged to do an interview with the lead researcher on this, Frank Pega. I directed him to this piece, and he was delighted by the "insightful commentary".

    So. If any of you have brilliant and insightful questions you think I should be asking him, post them here, or email me.

    Christchurch • Since Nov 2006 • 4371 posts Report Reply

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