I didn't realise how much that mask would affect me too. I wrote a little about it this year (and sorry if this is insensitive).
Oh Hilary, yeah, there's something about the mask - though mine will be one of the mesh ones they show in that article I linked to. Much of this process is quite claustrophobic, and this seems to emphasise that. And I think there's something quite... because it's my head, it feels much more invasive. My head is the part of my body I identify as being most Me.
OTOH (and this is where readers of a sensitive disposition should look away) recreationally I find being restrained very soothing. I am used to being unable to move, and I enjoy it. So maybe this'll just tap in to that and I'll be fine.
You could get your brain 3d printed which would be cool.
Ooo... See, this time they've done something called a STEALTH, which combines my MRI and CT scans to make an incredibly detailed and accurate model of my brain. It would be kind of great to get that printed out. "See, here's the bit that has the ideas, and here's the bit that notices incorrect apostrophes, and here's the bit that fails to stop me saying really 'funny' things..."
I cannot remember the last time I saw or encountered a bookcase-merged-door interior design of a bathroom.
Amongst these photos, you will find one of the bookcase door that leads to the toilets at C1. That's even a public access area, which the mayor's dressing room is NOT.
Also, I just googled "luxury lair" and those are all three-seater couches.
3. It’s been a long long time since I lived in Christchurch so please correct me, but: back in the 60s and 70s you could cycle or walk through the golf course in Hagley Park. In other words there was no issue with mixed use.
Well the golf course isn't physically separated in any way from the rest of Hagley Park, so you couldn't feasibly keep people out, and I used to walk through it (the actual golf course) all the time in the 90s. The only deterrent was the sudden and apparently random use of sprinklers.
I guess among the small mercies of this horrible story is the way his friend Owen Pallet responded.
I loved that piece of Pallet's. It was sure, it was nuanced, it was exactly what we need more of. And I think it provides a useful template for other people who find themselves in Pallet's position.
Since we don’t have any choice and all our metadata (loosely defined) is recorded and available to all and sundry, surely there are options to use that to our own advantage. Possibly not down to “death threat on phone = in jail”, but a lot of the online threats presumably get scooped up and there are already laws against doing that.
Yeah, I mean, honest to gods, even I'm not sure to what extent I'm joking here. I don't LIKE this shit, but if it IS going to happen, surely it could work to our advantage some of the time?
On a separate note, a few people have commented on how angry and dispirited GamerGate has made them feel, and for this I do actually have a constructive suggestion.
Buy a game you know these guys would hate. Developed by at least some women. A game with a female protagonist. One with a strong, affecting storyline. My favourite is Gone Home, which I won't tell you anything about because Spoilers, but everyone I know who's played it has cried buckets.
Part of my kink is stretching someone’s boundaries. But that MUST be done in the context of mutual trust and negotiation. If you don’t have absolute assurance it’s there, then don’t do it.
And the thing is, if I do have that absolute assurance, I will let them push me further. If I feel like STOP might not immediately mean stop, I'll pull the pin a whole lot faster.
Or, Trust gets you better sex.
I think that so much of our issue with sex stems from the fact that we’ve separated it from normal human behaviour.
Yeah, I have a real bug-bear about this. You want to go to the movies with someone? You ask them. And then the two of you have a conversation about which movie, and when, and where, and maybe generally what kinds of movies you like. But having exactly the same conversation about sex? Way too scary. It is fear, and it's fear out of all proportion to "what's the worst that could happen?"
If you have examples of stuff like this you want to share anonymously, you can email them to me, and I'll post them in my ID.
Perhaps ask David Farrier to poll this.
This is a poll I would quite like to participate in.