Up Front: The Missus
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Why don't I ever understand anything Mark says?
I think there may be some kind of automated prose-generator underneath. Many of the sentences are grammatically correct - or close to it - but don't make any actual sense.
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I think it would come down to fear=respect Danielle.
Fair enough Emma, that's your job and you do it well, I couldn't even stay away a month, what I meant was, when that entertainment flies in the face of the sentiments that you're 'required' to express as a mother/wife. Not think so much now, but when things like this may become an issue (the hypocrisy that is). Maybe it's just me... -
for the dumb asses
old skool thread. contradictions in expecation of wife in marriage.
women must work and be good wives
this can require conflict of interestFor example If our day job were to encourage people to celebrate truancy, but our night job were to discourage our children from that very practice.
this may lead to questioning our role in life on blogs
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Dumbass A reporting for duty: how is being a wife incompatible with being a writer?
(Also, did you just call Emma a hypocrite?)
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Dumbass B staying weeeeell away from this one.
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Seems to me that given the huge diversity of relationships even within PA that defining the actual activities is going to be hard for either wife or husband job.
That is pretty much my first thought. There are a number of people here - and I'm one of them - who are dealing with at least one family member with long term illnesses and/or conditions.
When you're in that situation a lot of traditional roles/expectations go out the window. As they probably should anyway.In the words of St Brian of Python, We're All Individuals.
Main differecnes? Its the husband's job to kill spiders. Wife's job to say 'No, don't kill it! just get rid of it!'
Oh, then there's mending fuses.
Put out rubbish.
Get groceries and other jobs involving lifting.
Make curries.
Also do that nurturing stuff.
And in my own case, Claudia is a detail person. I'm a big picture person. I know lots of couples with this sort of split and its not a male/female thing.
Mostly this works. When it doesn't its when she turns into an anal retentive control freak and I turn into an impractical dreamer. But this doesn't happen very often. Any more.
Oh, and on Paul's letters: Eddie Izzard.
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Dumbass A reporting for duty: how is being a wife incompatible with being a writer?
I'm not sure asking for clarification is going to clarify anything, sadly. Some of the words will come out in a different order, while not making much more sense.
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If our day job were to encourage people to celebrate truancy
I'd love to see what the hiring discussion I had with Russell looks like in Mark's head, I think I might hurt myself laughing. "But what I'm really looking for is someone to advocate truancy..."
There are a number of people here - and I'm one of them - who are dealing with at least one family member with long term illnesses and/or conditions.
When you're in that situation a lot of traditional roles/expectations go out the window.True. That's what happened to parenting-role (as opposed to parenting temperament) stereotypes in our house. Otherwise we just work to our strengths. My partner, bless him, cannot cook. I cannot fix the internet when it breaks.
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If the job of a wife is to put out? Shucky darn, that's terrible. Now, what's the job of a husband again?
well, duh, obviously it is husband's job to put IN.
or has someone else already pointed this out? -
That's what happened to parenting-role (as opposed to parenting temperament) stereotypes in our house. Otherwise we just work to our strengths. My partner, bless him, cannot cook. I cannot fix the internet when it breaks.
And I cannot drive, and my son, then five - in observing a male friend of ours at the wheel - found it strange that it wasn't the woman in that particular family who did the driving.
We both cook, I fix the Internet, we both nurture, she drives, I keep the accounting, she does the laundry, I mow the lawns... Really can't get my head around the "wife's job" thing in anything resembling a broad sense.
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[I'm] also the person who says 'okay, off you go, let me know if you need an ambulance'.
If you want to be the cool mum, you'd give your child a mobile phone and say "okay, off you go, call yourself an ambulance if you need one."
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I think it would come down to fear=respect Danielle.
Well, that cleared that up, then.
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Only one? C'mon, that's a bit slack.
Well apart from schoolboy stuff, yeah just one.
But I did it really well if that gets me more style points :).
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for the dumb asses
Arses please. I'm not a donkey!
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Arses please. I'm not a donkey!
You're not keen on a weekly ass-driving then?
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I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced the phenomenon of turning into one's mother (or father, if you're a bloke) in terms of how how you conduct a relationship?
I found it was becoming a mother that changed how I behaved as a partner/spouse. Example - I started baking the exact cakes & bikkies my mum used to make and some of her pet phrases came rolling off my tongue, usually unspoken by me in usual chat. When I got the chance I made a huge garden reminiscent of my father's - it was like I was recreating my childhood somehow.
I must point out that my dad died when I was 6, so i have sparse memories of the parents' relationship and no idea whether I repeated any pattern of who was dominant, the organiser, prime nurturer etc. And I suspect that my two long term partnerships (10 yrs each) both foundered because I didn't live up to expectations of wifeliness. I don't think the men concerned could have stated what those expectations were either, it seems more subconscious.
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As a father of 4, grandfather of 7, and one great grandson, I love 'em all BUT
WHY do we have children???? -
WHY do we have children????
Good question, with this overpopulated world we live in.
Children are the past. -
As a father of 4, grandfather of 7, and one great grandson, I love 'em all BUT
WHY do we have children????I suspect the gentleman has grand-children staying for the school holidays and is getting rather weary....
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I thought the point of having kids was so they can provide you with grandchildren with whom you can do all the fun taking them out for treats stuff without all the boring getting to school on time and breaking up fights stuff.
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JoJo,
I have a sneaking suspicion that this is an underlying concern for those against same-sex marriage: "What's the role of a wife, when there is no husband?!".
I'm sure my mum is quietly worried about who will save whom from spiders when my girl and I get CUed. Like we're both going be standing on a chair screaming to the other one "GET IT!".
Don't mind me, y'all - I'm just cracking myself up here.
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I'd love to see what the hiring discussion I had with Russell looks like in Mark's head, I think I might hurt myself laughing. "But what I'm really looking for is someone to advocate truancy..."
I'm sure it was all clean and above board; D
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WHY do we have children?...
A few explanations suggest themselves:
1. its something to do with genes being such selfish little bastards.
2. The Supreme Being told us to Go Forth and Mulitply so by crikey we'd better.
3. to fill an aching void of meaning.
4. 'it'll be safe, honey, I'm sure of it...'
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my colleague; an (alleged) kiwi knocked her up on a rebound screw and she's catholic.
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unemployed with the occasional bout of berry-picking
Boy senberries , perhaps? :)
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