Up Front: Why a Woman is Like a Bicycle
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When I first saw the tweet it was an instant "Yup, that's pretty much fair, and very well put". Seeing it had skyrocketed into cray today was bizarre. But then I think that the right to kill with a motor vehicle is like a first amendment mentality thing, and brings out whackos.
I totally get what you meant. Motorists can kill you easily, and can give you a hard time. That part of it doesn't feel good.
Ironically, I think being wrapped in masters-of-the-universe guise (white middle-aged large man) makes my experience of this much less than other cyclists. But it's a taste of what it's like. Worrying about how I'm being perceived by a hostile gaze from behind. Wondering if my hostile comeback might lead to seriously dangerous violence which I have little prospect of getting the best of. The palpable sense of relief on a cycleway. The sense that some kind of outfits that might be better for riding in would increase hostility. The annoyance that I have to wear a stupid fucking hat or the police might hassle me for my own safety, particularly recently when it's hot like a bastard and no-one in a car has to wear a helmet, no matter how many people died in cars this year, and particularly since the helmet itself seems to increase bad driver behaviour.
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Just to note that I forgot to mention the weirdest reply I saw to this tweet. I got a sound telling off from a feminist for denigrating the bicycle, which had been such a boon for women.
I... got nothing.
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I got a little of the insight when watching Julius Caesar at the Pop Up Globe. It was confronting as a guy to see men consigned to bit parts and *clearly* dressed as property (sack cloth and shackles). I stood there thinking "this is what it is like for women watching most MSM TV/Movies etc."!!!!
So analogies are important to help shift frames of reference!
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Great column Emma. Sure mades me think, and I'm a male cycling advocate who often rides in Island Bay.
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Wow. "Congratulations on your 47,000 star tweet" is something I think I'd be fucking scared to be seeing in response to anything I wrote, whether it was joking, scathing, insightful... wow.
It was a bloody good tweet though, I thought so when I first saw it.
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Moz,
I'm glad you've (re)popularised this, it bears repeating.
Some time ago I suggested to Andrew Geddis on PA that he might like to try cycling for this exact reason and his response was "no, not convenient". But it's something I regularly suggest to men because it really does give you that "Schrodinger's Motorist" experience, as well as the whole gamut of heckles and micro-aggressions (although when it's done with a couple of tonnes of metal travelling at 60kph it doesn't feel very micro).
So many more parallels: cyclists are expected to dress a certain way, but however they dress it's wrong. Lycra is comfortable and practical but lycra louts are awful, anything other than orange reflective road-hazard is the wrong colour, but why are you whining about spending so much on clothes? And why can't you look like everyone else?
Also, people will complain vigorously if you suggest any change be made to accommodate your particular needs. Often they say "it's always been like this" which is much more clearly bollocks than it is when women suggest similar things. Which is not to say that it's not also bollocks when said to women, just that "always" and "invented in 1913" is egregious.
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there's a large percentage of the population that wants to keep its figurative foot on the accelerator. Obviously, they dont see the Dead End sign or seem to care about who their words, thoughts or actions affect. Fuckers.
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I’m a woman and I also ride a bike. Your analogy speaks my truth. Just in case you needed some straight up “shes right you know” support. I’d tweet it but you might not get it in all the viral popularity.
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What I think is interesting is so many people think the tweet is about cycling.
So much so that you get anti-cycling responses.
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Emma Hart, in reply to
I’d tweet it but you might not get it in all the viral popularity.
Thanks, Jessica. The thing that gets me the most about the response (because once the abuse gets to a certain level I just can't take it seriously any more) is that there IS lovely stuff in there, and I'm not getting to see it.
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Moz, in reply to
so many people think the tweet is about cycling.
So much so that you get anti-cycling responses.Has anyone objected on the grounds that it's appropriation? You just can't know what it's like to be a woman merely by riding a bike...
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Emma Hart, in reply to
Has anyone objected on the grounds that it's appropriation? You just can't know what it's like to be a woman merely by riding a bike...
Oh dear gods yes.
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Moz,
I'm sorry. And also somewhat sorry that I asked.
But... not sorry that I have managed to avoid twitter for the most part.
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I have also been told off for "speaking for all women". By men.
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Moz,
On behalf of "all cyclists", I would like to say you shouldn't claim to speak for all cyclists.
What's that, you didn't? Well... um... good.
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linger, in reply to
managed to avoid twitter
cf. Ben Goldacre's graph representing the "bell-end distribution" of online comments (i.e., overrepresenting extreme reactions, & especially at the negative end of the bell-curve of opinion)
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Moz, in reply to
overrepresenting extreme reactions, & especially at the negative end of the bell-curve of opinion
Very much so. And especially because the positive end are more likely to say "hmm, could this be misinterpreted? Perhaps I should tone it down". I could easily have responded to Emma by professing undying love and a desire to shower her with kisses... but in the context of getting heaps of abuse online, I think it's better I just went for "thank you".
I'm happy that Patreon has decent comment feeds for the most part - it turns out that trolls aren't willing to pay a dollar a month for the privilege.
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But this doesn’t work because men can get off their bikes.
I would like to point out in my defence, my personal point, though poorly articulated, was that as a bloke I was glad to have the privilege(?) of getting off.
Proper thanks for sharing though, stuff like this always makes me think and try harder.
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I'm a middle class straight white guy with a bike I hardly ever ride ... so I can only nod in clueless agreement and keep to a simple "thanks" also. I did feel the need to read this post (and some of the comments out loud) to the entire family, and the females in the audience nodded too, no doubt much more cluefully.
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Yes, yes, yes, and yes. And I'm a straight white middle class middle age guy.
My point is though, that I don't have an actual choice about riding the bike. The thing finally got me off the cigarettes and that way probably saved my life.
Mrs 5 has a role model with an active lifestyle, so she rides 6km of tailwind, 6km of headwind back, two loops of the pump track, and up the hill where the 9yo friend with the gear shift bails out.
It's incredible to see that, and, I dread the day when she finds out about both sides of your tweet.
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I would agree.
What would a motor-scooter be closest to? I have ridden real motorbikes, pushbikes and scooters over the last 30 years, and find for some reason riding a little 50cc scooter as the most antagonistic of the bunch.
Even when riding at clearly illegal speeds (derestriction makes the scooters better...) you still have idiots cutting you off, trying to overtake into oncoming traffic, hitting you, etc. I gave up on them as its safer cycling as I can use the cycle path without additional complaints. -
One further area of similarity, which seems germane to the response to the tweet itself too: no matter how many people threaten, abuse or intimidate you (online or in person), you must never, ever appear angry yourself, or you’ll become One Of Those Types and everything you say will be treated as invalid.
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So I have a don’t-look-at-social-media day or two, and by hokey, the doo-doos hit the wotsits on that platform! I missed the stoush and don't really want to come in late with the comments.
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Grant McDougall, in reply to
Some time ago I suggested to Andrew Geddis on PA that he might like to try cycling for this exact reason and his response was "no, not convenient".
Given that he lives way the hell out at Purakanui, from a purely practical view, it actually isn't for him.
I expect he sympathises a) with the gist of this column and, b) cycling in general, but it's "not convenient" for him because Purakanui is a good 30min drive to his work along very narrow, twisting countries roads for the first half, then a road with heavy trucks zipping along continuously on it for the second.
Also, he's an academic - bit hard to carry a couple of hundred assignments on a bike, eh ?
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